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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-09-05 03:35 pm

[ SECRET POST #3167 ]


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(Anonymous) 2015-09-05 08:31 pm (UTC)(link)
In defense of the team on "Criminal Minds", I will say that I think a large part of the reason they get so nosy is because a lot of the time, the secrets and personal issues certain members have tried to keep often wound up getting tied into some big, dramatic case somehow, or put the team member(s) in question at serious risk. Their secrets aren't often simple, innocent ones, so it makes sense the team would be concerned as a result.

Plus, with the way this job takes such an emotional/mental/physical toll on the team, I think a lot of their nosiness also comes from the simple fact that whatever concern they show for each other on a professional level isn't always so easy to just naturally turn off when it comes to being involved in each other's lives outside of work, no matter how good things are going in their personal lives.

All of that said, however, I do agree that they should have some limits and boundaries when it comes to getting so nosy about each other's personal lives. I can understand being concerned if something's affecting them professionally, but outside of work, yeah, everyone deserves some privacy.

(Anonymous) 2015-09-05 08:40 pm (UTC)(link)
It doesn't bother me when they're nosy because it's affecting the job. But, for instance, Garcia just would not let it go that Morgan didn't want to do a speaking engagement that had nothing to do with his job (which, if I remember correctly, she only found by snooping through his stuff). Morgan told her to drop it but she didn't. And, in the end, she's proven right, forcing him to open up and end up going. That's bullshit right there. He didn't want to; she should've just backed off and respected that.

The show mentions in-show that it's difficult not to profile each other but if they're doing that, they should get called out on it, not treated like it's an okay thing to be too nosy in each other's lives. When they do mention it, it doesn't bug me as much.

Lots of shows do this where one person pesters another to open up and it's always shown as being good that they forced that person to open up. I hate that.

(Anonymous) 2015-09-05 08:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Ah, yeah, that is a good example of your gripe. I love Garcia dearly, but I agree with you that that was an instance where she should've just left well enough alone, and let Morgan do whatever he felt comfortable doing. Especially considering how personal and emotional the entire situation was for him, since it involved someone who knew his dad.

I do like the moments where they call someone else out on profiling them. It would be a tough skill to turn off, for sure, given their job, but like you said, there's times when they really don't need to do it.

And even if they want to continue to show concern, there's ways to let people know you're there for them if and when they do want to talk without getting too intrusive, too. All these years later, their love and support for each other has been made pretty obvious, so yeah, I think if they really need help, they're well aware they can turn to each other if absolutely necessary.

(Anonymous) 2015-09-05 10:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Ugh this seems to be such a common plot point and I HATE it. It makes me want to write a whole series where nosy would-be-dogooders fuck up everything for everyone and it turns out they were wrong all along for trying to force the way they think their friends should live their lives on everyone else.

(Anonymous) 2015-09-05 11:18 pm (UTC)(link)
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Regarding Criminal Minds, I also remember the time Rossi tried to convince Morgan - or was it Prentiss? - to go back to church. I usually love Rossi but I really hated this episode because he was proven right at the end.

I really hate when characters proselytize, especially when they're shown to be in the right.