[ SECRET POST #3167 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3167 ⌋

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Comments

[belladonna_took]

I can't relate, unfortunately. I had the opposite problem.

After my friend told everyone he was FTM he told me he was 100% sure I was like him, and he told me it was okay to talk about it.

:|
Nope, just not a very ladylike lady. Sorry to disappoint.

[(Anonymous)]

wow that's... actually pretty rude. i hate people who think they know you better than you know yourself. (and shouldn't he be against policing other people's identities?)

[belladonna_took]

He's kind of an asshole, yes, and he's not really into activism of any form, so I doubt he gives a crap.

Look, everyone I know wonders about me, and I'm used to it. I'm in one of those social circles where everyone has dated/slept with/whatever'd with everyone else. Except for me. So either I'm some kind of robot or I'm into something so freaky it will never see the light of day, right?

They've been a little better since we hit our 20s, but I fully expect there's still some kind of ongoing betting pool.

[(Anonymous)]

I guess people do view the world through their own filters, and thought he could see himself in you, but he was projecting like whoa obviously. With added annoyance of gender expression vs gender identity bullshit.

That's frustrating. "No I'm really not in denial no seriously I'm denying that I'm in denial yeah I'm sure it took you years to overcome your denial but I am 100% sure I'm not in denial myself".

[belladonna_took]

Haha. It was a confusing conversation, because I agreed about a lot of stuff, and we're still very similar in some ways in what we think and how we feel about ourselves. He just maybe had a different goal in mind? I mean, I'd love to be treated like my gender doesn't matter. He wanted to be treated like a man.

I think in high school too, I probably had some of the same dysphoria about puberty that he did. I didn't want boobs or periods. That might be where the idea started? We also shared clothes a lot and we both had a preference for men's clothing. It's just way more comfortable on all levels, and the pants have real pockets!

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt I'm with you on that. I have had a kind of dysphoria about the "female" bits, and not at all girly, and considered whether I might be trans or genderqueer. Then like you, I decided that for me my gender didn't matter, I'm reasonably comfy in my own skin though, ideally I'd love it if no one made assumptions about my gender.

[belladonna_took]

Yeah, I'm glad I have friends who would support me if I needed it, but I don't feel like I'd be any more myself as a trans man, if that makes sense? I'd most likely have felt uncomfortable going through puberty if I'd been born male, too. I think that's just me.

It's cool talking to other people about gender and sexuality because it's in the back of my mind sometimes that something is wrong with me, but I feel comfortable with it, so maybe it's not a bad thing, and knowing that other people feel the same way about themselves is weirdly reassuring.

[(Anonymous)]

It is weirdly reassuring, I get you. I guess we could make tumblr bios with fancy identity labels and talk a looot about it if we wanted... but I'm just going to keep trucking on being a bit weird about my gender stuff and that's okay.

[belladonna_took]

See, I don't even know enough about all these labels to pick one. Tumblr is one of those things I looked at and just went "oh god. I feel old."

You're cool. If we had the tumblr I would add you (follow you? friend you? idk how tumblr works).

[kitelovesyou]

Hahaha hi I decided to stop lurking on fs being anon so much and make an account today. D'you have the twitter/want another follower? Dunno about cool tho but appreciate an absence of bullshit :D

[belladonna_took]

Yay! Hi! Welcome! :D

I... haven't used twitter since 2010ish when my friend made me one and told me I would love it. Oops?
I've been thinking I should have some form of social media for fandom friends. I have you on here now so when I do that you'll be the first to know.

[kitelovesyou]

I haven't used twitter since 2013 tbh, but thinking of starting again since I don't even have a facebook to do the social media thing and it would be nice to share updates with nice people :^)

[belladonna_took]

We'll have to make a New Years resolution to tweet more!

I don't normally take two days to reply. Sorry!!

[(Anonymous)]

Ouch, that sucks. I have a pretty low voice for a ciswoman, and I often get called a 'dude' or mtf, even though I'm not. I know how that feels. :/

[belladonna_took]

Ah, that sounds annoying! I'd love to be less squeaky, personally. I sound like a little kid over the phone. It would be cool if we got to pick our voices, you know?

People need to calm down with the assumptions. If I wanted someone to know something, I'd tell them, not the other way around.