[ SECRET POST #3172 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3172 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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(Ollie Locke)


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Comments

[fscom]

11. http://i.imgur.com/5STqO4n.png?1

Transcript by OP

[fscom]

My friends think of me as extroverted and have mentioned a couple of times that they wished they were as confident and out-going when meeting new people as me.

Social interactions make me so anxious that they terrorize me in my goddamn sleep.

But in public I deal by adopting [Fran Fine's] mannerisms as a defence mechanism. I act like Fran and everyone assumes I must be extroverted. The terror comes later.

B!S: I hadn't even realised I do this until I recently re-watched The Nanny and noticed the similarities. I just subconsciously dealt with the anxiety by mimicking the most condient person I've ever seen, I guess. Even if she's fictional.

Re: Transcript by OP

[(Anonymous)]

It works for you, and that's great! You're not the first person to use a persona to get by, so don't knock yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

oh joy, another person who uses the terms "extroverted" and "introverted" without understanding what they mean.

[(Anonymous)]

Demonstrative, outgoing, unreserved and social are all words my thesaurus lists as synonyms for extroverted.

What else should it mean?

[(Anonymous)]

What do they mean? I mean, I've heard at least three different definitions. I'm wondering which definition you're thinking of here.

[cloud_riven]

I too also become irked when people use words without understanding their true meanings. Like when I call someone a dick, I'm using the book-accurate definition meaning Richardson McDouchnozzle. Everyone else though? They keep using it to mean Penis Duncea'loser.

[(Anonymous)]

Here, have the internet. :)

[kitelovesyou]

To me, extroverts gain more energy from being around others, introverts need time to recover energy after by being by themselves. OP seems to meet that definition.

[(Anonymous)]

oh joy, a pretentious internet nerd here to passive aggressively lecture people on their word choices

[(Anonymous)]

Pissing on someone's coping technique just to be a pedant doesn't really win you many internet points in my book, though.

[solticisekf]

What if maintaining a facade, appearing someone you're not, taxes you? For me pretending takes effort and afterwards I think about how it's not a real me and that I should go back to my roots ASAP.
Fran is awesome though, go you!

[(Anonymous)]

Um, as an extrovert who was diagnosed with both depression and anxiety, I'd like to note that extroverts can have anxiety too.

I know this wasn't the point of the secret, but a lot of people tend to ignore that fact.

[(Anonymous)]

God, this. I have panic disorder and generalized anxiety. Medication has helped a lot, but before I was on it I learned to deal with panic attacks in public places (which would, if I thought consciously about the idea, send me into a panic attack right there because it can feel mortifying) by joking through it with whoever was nearby. I'm the most outgoing of all my friends despite the fact that I spend a lot more time alone.

[elaminator]

Hey, if it works more power to you.

Now I want to try it. (I guess to an extent I do something like this, but it's more "think exceedingly positive thoughts'. It doesn't always work, but it DOES work.)

[(Anonymous)]

So, OP, you are basically saying that you have style and flair? ;P

[(Anonymous)]

*applause* Best comment.

[(Anonymous)]

Yay, someone got my reference! :D

[(Anonymous)]

Good plan! :)

[tabaqui]

Hey, if being 'The Nanny'/Fran Drescher works for you, then go for it! She's awesome, anyway, so why not?
http://sofrantastic.tumblr.com/

[caerbannog]

That's a good way to deal with your anxiety, anon? I do similar, although I think it's more a hodgepodge of confident characters - real and fictional - but the idea is similar.

[(Anonymous)]

I hope you don't mimic her voice.

[(Anonymous)]

I think I do this too, sort of. If my favorite character in the thing I'm currently watching/obsessing over behaves confidently, I'm much more likely to behave confidently. Same goes for other behaviors, but it's most useful when it's confidence, at least for me, as someone who's fairly unconfident in general. Sometimes mirroring, conscious or otherwise, is extremely useful.