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fandomsecrets2015-09-10 06:42 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-09-10 06:42 pm
[ SECRET POST #3172 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3172 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Forever]
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[Doctor Who]
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Re: Vent thread
I belatedly left some advice on the other post, so I'm probably repeating myself, but sometimes you need to communicate something that will distress/discomfort your partner, and that doesn't mean you're a bad person, especially if you take pains to not blame them when it's not their fault. You did that! Don't get into the loop of "I feel bad because they feel bad that I feel bad that they feel bad" etc etc. Keeping stuff from the other person because it's an uncomfortable truth is not a good relationship idea long term. And it helps no one if you self-flagellate and feel shame and guilt when you've done what you could with what information you had, with love.
Whether you are sexually compatible and ultimately should continue to be together is a whole 'nother issue, DON'T call yourself a "terrible" girlfriend for it though.
Yeah sure you're not perfect, but don't focus on little flaws and fuck-ups and blame a sadness/discomfort which is on the whole no one's fault, on those.
♥