[ SECRET POST #3176 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3176 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[Journey]


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03.
[Absolutely Fabulous]


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(Sam Smith, Lana Del Rey, Shirley Bassey, Ellie Goulding)


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05.
[Tim Drake, DC Comics]


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06.
[Wakako-zake]


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07.
[FIFA, World Soccer Championship]


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08.
[Fear The Walking Dead]


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09.
[Calvin Dyson - Bond Reviewer, The Anime Man, BobSamurai's Anime Reviews, Retroblasting, Oliver Harper's Retrospective and Reviews]


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10.
[Higher Ground]


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11.
[Beelzebub]


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12.
[Steven Universe]


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13.
[Robert Stack, Unsolved Mysteries]








Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 056 secrets from Secret Submission Post #454.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

Advice

[(Anonymous)]

 

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

So I'm going through something really difficult at the moment, that's causing me a lot of pain. I don't have many sympathetic people irl to talk to atm, and my mother just says "buck up".

How do I deal with the searing feeling of pain in my everyday life? I get a temporary stay on it when I'm talking to someone else, but how do I just get through? What do you do when you want to do anything but think? I need to be strong and keep going and doing what I need to do, but I just want to give up.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Do internet interactions help?

What sort of pain?

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

:(

I'm sorry, anon.

I don't have any good advice. The only thing that I've found that really helps is talking about it with sympathetic people. That, and time. It's just hard and shitty sometimes.

Hugs if wanted.

Re: Advice

[paranoid_anon]

I get a temporary stay on it when I'm talking to someone else

Sounds like you've answered your own question, anon. If you know what helps, or can figure out what helps, do more of that. Er. As long as that doesn't hurt anyone else.

What do you do when you want to do anything but think?

Work. Exercise. Crafting, if you're into that. Carpentry, if you're into that. Gardening. Cooking. Basically something physical you can do where you have to be focused on what you're doing, and keep doing that.

Sorry you're having a rough time, anon. I know it's a cliche, but if you keep pushing through, the further you get in time from whatever you're dealing with, the more distance/perspective you'll have on it.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Whenever I sweep the floor, I wonder why I procrastinated on it so long--it's that soothing to me. Anything repetitive where you can just concentrate on the repetitive movements. Some people like chopping veggies for soup, or knitting. Taking a walk can be good.

I like to go to the supermarket--even when I only buy one thing, all that plenitude obscurely cheers me up.

Good luck, anon. I hope you can find something that helps.

Re: Advice

[silverr]

Music. Music has always been my life preserver.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

If you mean physical pain, then you need to see a doctor and see what can be done in terms of managing it in a healthy way. If you mean emotional pain, then I sympathize but I can also see why your mother is telling you to "buck up", because "searing feeling of pain" sounds a touch melodramatic. Can you be more specific as to its source? Because that's an important thing to consider when it comes to countering it.

As a general bit of advice, any time you're in pain from say, a bad break up, the cure is time and activity. DON'T sit around the house wallowing in negative thoughts. Get out of the house, learn a new hobby, exercise, meet new people, etc. You might also consider volunteering someplace. Soup kitchen? Animal shelter? Helping someone else is an amazing antidote to feeling worthless or depressed.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think they're being melodramatic. If you're not used to it, some kinds of pain is incredibly painful.

One day I pulled my back muscle and I was in so much pain I could barely move. I would have certainly called it searing pain. I felt like there was a knife in my back.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt - Physical pain, yes. To describe emotional pain as "searing" sounds like bad fanfic.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Even if they're being melodramatic, "buck up" is some extremely fucking useless and unempathetic advice.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

idk what's causing your pain, but "anything but think" sounds like me and the grief I've been dealing with for the past month. thinking almost anything leads me to remember the reason I'm grieving and then I'm off on another hour-long crying jag.

if this is you, anon, if you're sort of in that boat, then distract yourself any way you can. hobbies. video games. netflix marathons of stupid crap you used to like when you were younger. the only way to stop thinking is to make your brain focus on something else, and not put yourself into a situation where your brain can start wandering back over to the sensitive, triggering topics.

for me, it's been a combination of video games and roleplaying that have gotten me through, and allowed me to function long enough not to be a puffy-eyed, sniffling mess in public. only you know what will truly turn your brain off, but there's some ideas. maybe you like baking or crocheting toys or gardening, I don't know.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Is it physical or mental? bc that does make a difference

I live with chronic pain from nerve damage. Sadly I haven't found any medications yet that help. Mostly what I do is focus on music. I play the piano. I draw. I spend a lot of time playing video games. Anything to keep my mind off it.

Re: Advice

[dahli]

Find ways to distract yourself from the pain, so you can focus less on it and more on other stuff. Maybe focus on a hobbie, or pick a videogame or pick up a series and watch it.

I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

In the canon, character A slaps character B hard. A and B just met each other when B causes the death of A's son. B can see ghosts and sees A's son, and passes along what the son is saying. A cannot see the son and slaps B when she says this, saying she's evil and mind-fucking him. However, they end up killing monsters together shortly after and A lets B go.

So, A/B is a ship of mine. I feel like A's actions can be excused given that he's just met B and she just got his son killed (accidentally). He doesn't hit her again in the series. But maybe I'm being an apologist? What are your thoughts? If I was trying to sell you on this pairing, how should I present this event?

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

Not problematic imo

Re: I need perspective

[killaurey]

I think A's actions make total sense in the context they are given, and given that it never happens again. I don't think it's problematic the way you've described it here.

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

B got A's child killed? Yeaah pretty sure that slap would be quite understandable.

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

how?

A is going too easy on B.....

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

I don't see that as a problem at all, and am kinda curious what the canon is.

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

Men do not hit women. Ever. There is not ever an excuse for this. "It on;y happened once" is one time too many.

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

Okay, what if she's an ax-murdering Nazi who is coming after him with a flaming ax to kill some kittens that he's defending

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

Why make a rule blanket gender-specific tho. It depends on context. Practically speaking tho men tend to hold most of the power (physically, financially, situationally) when hitting - so a husband shoving and hitting his wife is usually more alarming in terms of warning bells than the reverse.

Re: I need perspective

[(Anonymous)]

Men hit women in self defense, just like anyone else has the right to. Stop it, you're deliberately ignoring context here. A grieving parent sees the person responsible for their child's death? That's hardly domestic abuse if it's just a slap. Is hitting "okay"? No, I, a woman, can't promise I wouldn't do the same if I saw my hypothetical child's killer. Maybe worse than slap.

And unless you think it's also unacceptable for women to hit men, you can go fuck yourself.

6/10

[(Anonymous)]

You're getting better at this.