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⌈ Secret Post #3179 ⌋

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[Rupaul's Drag Race season 7]

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[The Mighty Boosh, Noel Fielding]

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There is not correct response. The societal ideal is that you're supposed to "not speak ill of the dead" but realistically that's bullshit. It's not wrong to maintain the ill will you had toward someone in life if that person was legitimately cruel to you and caused you pain.

And it sounds like that was definitely the case here.

In my case my dad died when I was 19. I still don't hesitate to talk about his bad points, because it lets me remember him for who he was.

tl;dr don't censor your own experience because someone else expects you to. You have a right to your own indignation. The only helpful thing I can say here is that you probably would never have gotten an apology. Bullies tend to remain bullies for life, and I don't think this would have been an exception.

Edited 2015-09-18 02:14 (UTC)

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Re: TW: Bullying and death