[ SECRET POST #3180 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3180 ⌋

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Comments

Re: tw Self Harm, fic research

[(Anonymous)]

Im a little confused by the wording of this. Do you mean why would someone self harm on their face? Cause that could have a lot of motivations including impulse control problems due to a disorder or an episode (I've known people who scratch themselves during panic attacks then regret it later, also dermatillomania is an impulse control disorder that results in self harm and can be on the face), but perhaps more dramatic reasons would be a compulsion to harm the face due to self hatred or depersonalization? I've never known anyone who did that irl, but I also don't know the situation of the character you're writing.

Also, I don't harm my face or anywhere super noticeable, but I will sometimes not hide my self harm on my arms and legs due to apathy: people are actually not very likely to notice and/or say something to you I find and if its hot I sometimes I just give up hiding it.

And, as a chronic self harmer myself, the only ending suggestion I can give is: magical fixes frustrate me to no end and they are the main reason I don't read fic with it. If someone has a bad, long standing problem with self harm it probably won't be fixed by someone noticing it and giving them a hug.

Re: tw Self Harm, fic research

[(Anonymous)]

You gave me a lot to think about, thank you! I'd like to have a mix of reasons. I don't understand how depersonalization works but self control problems and self hatred due to guilt makes sense for the character.

I'd like to avoid magical fixes because they usually don't work. I'm thinking about improving things for the character however, so there's some progress in the fic. I have doubts about writing character's friends finding out, hugs and all, because I self harm (my pattern doesn't fit the character tho), and I can't see how anyone knowing about it would help me. A help from friends or a love interest is the usual solution but it doesn't feel right for the character.

Anyway, thanks again!

Re: tw Self Harm, fic research

[dreemyweird]

I can't say anything about self-harm specifically, as that's not something I've ever had to deal with myself, but "help" from someone is a very broad concept. Your usual "love fixes it!!" situations for serious, hard psychological issues are bullshit because there is no internal work being done, nothing changes within the character. Psychological problems are, by their nature, inside problems (outside triggers of these problems are a different matter) and must be solved from inside.

Someone knowing about an issue may not help, but someone knowing AND helping you to work on the issue by providing support, suggesting coping techniques, or showing you the possible roots of the issue in question may make things significantly better.

Re: tw Self Harm, fic research

[(Anonymous)]

(ayrt)

Yeah, with the "loved one finds out and things get better!" trope... I have had friends and family find out (see my above mentioned apathy, that developed over time) and it has frankly not effected me. Peers rarely know what to do or say so they usually don't do or say anything (understandably). It can in some ways be relieving just for it not to be a secret, but it is not a fix and won't necessarily make someone have the willpower to stop.

I think showing a gradual or the start of an improvement (if its short) in the characters life/mental health is fine, but yeah, magical fixes are my pet peeve and so frustrating to me.