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⌈ Secret Post #3196 ⌋

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My roommate and I use a notepad on the fridge to calculate bills. Water is in my name, electric is in hers. We also paid for insurance and cable installation. She's a pretty tense person in general and I think this translates to her being really passive aggressive, so I wasn't super surprised when I checked this evening to see she had written "toilet paper: $23.99" on the notepad.

I'm never home (literally almost never; I spend the nights with my boyfriend 5-6 days out of the week and I work over 40 hours) and we've discussed this. For instance, she thought it would be unfair to expect me to do some of the household chores as much as she does (ie. unloading the dishwasher) since she is using most of the assets in the home far more than me. That being said, I still clean the bathroom and do the dishes, etc when I am home because I like keeping my place tidy even if I'm never there.

But anyway I am just baffled as to why her mentality is apparently not applying to things like toilet paper and dish soap. I don't feel like I should be splitting these costs when 1. it was not agreed to when we set house rules, 2. she chose to buy toilet paper in bulk (like seriously? $24?) and 3. I am not using hardly any of the TP. I would rather buy my own than have her make these decision for me and then attempt to collect on money she isn't actuall owed.

It's not a huge deal, it's just $15 or so she's claiming I owe her, but I'm living paycheck to paycheck and it's just a general attitude of hers that this is acceptable. I think she's kind of a hypocrite about things too; we have two kitchen trash cans and she uses both but only empties one because the other is "mine" and she filled my bathroom trash bin with dirty pads without replacing the actual bag, so they're just sitting in the can. I can guarantee she won't clean it out.

Idk I just don't see how she can think it's fine to bill me for bulk toilet paper that I don't use lol and I'm worried if I only pay a few dollars for it (which is my plan) that she'll withhold money for our water bill from me. I know I could technically take her to small claims court over this but it wouldn't be worth the money.

Talk to her about this, absolutely. Don't let it fester and don't just silently pay a few dollars for it. She's been shown to be reasonable to your face before, so what amounts to her selfish myopia (and/or opportunism) about this needs some brief discussion. Be calm, assertive and to the point. Don't be defensive, apologetic or petty. With someone like that, there's always going to be some annoying hypocritical behaviour, but you can control the more egregious examples

If you're fantasising about small claims court, wow, either you're averse to confronting her, or think she may not listen to you. Talk to her about stuff *before* you get too tense to have a calm discussion about things that bug you. But also pick your battles. Your paycheck is on the line here though.

Are you never home at all, or are you home sometimes? If you are home a little bit, you should chip in sometimes for toilet paper. Not equally, of course. But I had a roommate in the past who spent little time at home and thought that meant she literally never had to chip in for anything.

If you're with your boyfriend 5-6 days a week just move in with him then.

Yep.

He's an RA at a residence hall. He'd be breaking his housing contract which would get him fired. Without that income he wouldn't be able to afford school. It's not worth the risk of him getting fired and being forced to drop out, lol.

Valid excuse!

Also, I personally discourage anyone from moving in with an SO purely out of convenience, especially if it's a relatively new relationship. Wait until you both want to live together because you want to live together and you'd be cool with that being a permanent arrangement if that's how it turned out.

(nayrt)

Well you didn't agree to it contractually, so you don't actually owe her anything.

Refuse to pay.

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