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So my high school reunion is coming up and I'm undecided about going. I haven't spoken to these people in years and I do keep in touch with most of the ones I wanted to since I graduated. There's maybe 5-10 people that moved away that I would like to see, but otherwise, I'm not sure I really want to go.

For those who did go to their high school reunions, did you think it was worth going? Your impressions?

I didn't go and I have no regrets. Apparently it was a total shitshow of an improperly booked venue and nobody went.

I know the venue they booked is good, I've been there for several other events.

My other problem is they announced the reunion and stated it would cost $56 for dinner and open bar. Then they said, nope $60 so we could decorations. Apparently they forgot about tax and gratuity so it'll be $75 a person. So I'm debating what to do, because oh yes, it's cocktail attire, so that means I'd have to get a new dress too.

For me, personally, even $20 is way too much to pay to spend an evening with an 80% chance of hating most of the people in the room. I kept in touch with just about everyone from high school that I actually cared for.

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I didn't go to my 5 year. My friend who did go said it was pretty lame and he mostly just got drunk (which in fairness is very appropriate for my HS graduating class).

We did have an unofficial reunion which was just a bunch of people I was actually friends with got together in a bar sometime around Christmas and that was nice. But as for official reunions, not so good. I'll probably go to the 10-year, though.

I mean most of my class sucked but there were enough decent people that we can probably spend some quality time snarking on the rest.

I'd rather have an unofficial one but in reality, that's most weekends for me.

I just don't know if enough of my friends are going yet and honestly, thanks to facebook, I know what most of the people are up to and don't really care.

I went to a 5 year one of close friends, it was pretty good.

I'm not going to the 10 year one. Firstly because I have no interest in attending a social event with people I hardly know in a backwater country town and now I can't afford it even if I wanted to. Nothing against most of them, I just can't see the appeal. If I want to know how someone is doing, most of those are in Facebook and the ones who are not are unlikely to go anyway?

That's sort of my standpoint. There's a couple of people who I haven't seen that I'd like to catch up with, but at the same time if they haven't bothered to talk to me in years, what's to say they want to see me?

I keep in touch with a bunch of friends and I do know some going but right now it's about half and half.

Ours 10 year is in a couple of months lol.

There are ppl I'd like to know how they're going but yeah, they may or may not show up. Especially since all the info is via Facebook but I've seen no mention of venue or price so it's not being advertised very well.

And I can think of maybe 3 people I wouldn't want to see/would want to show up but I think going just for that isn't worth it. I might do some Facebook snooping and congrats on any recent milestones (someone got engaged this week, that kind of stuff). Im not interested in any comparing life type stuff. Also recently ex friended an old hs buddy so awkward.

But most/all my high school friends are more proximity/familiarity casual friendships than bff types.

Maybe if it was local to me I might? But too much fuss to fly down.

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shortysc22 - 2015-10-06 01:07 (UTC) - Expand

I didn't go. The only way I got past all the things there that caused my PTSD was to completely cut contact with everyone. And they kept sending me requests for money for the reunion even when I asked them to stop until my mother sent a strongly worded email.

Although, it was slightly flattering to find out from my sister that my high school best friend/crush married someone who looks a lot like me.

That's rude of them to send requests for money. At least mine is that you only have to pay if you're going.

The one I went to was pretty good. We went to the zoo, a bunch of them brought their kids. It was very pleasant.

That actually sounds like a lot of fun. The zoo sounds like a good way to incorporate families.

Mine's at a lake club house and it's pretty fancy.

That is the kind of reunion I'd go to, tbh

My friends and I won't go to our 10 year. We might do our own thing though.

I have no desire to be reunited with most of my graduating class. I'm guessing it would be a lot like high school.

My popular girl BFF will go and bring me back the delicious gossip anyway.

I have several friends that are going so I figure they can tell me what I miss out on, should I choose not to go.

Hahah yeah I let my friend bring back all the juicy gossip.

I've pretty much disowned that school from my thoughts and have zero desire to see 95% of my class ever again, but I'll still take the gossip!

I never went, but then I never knew when they were. It's been such a long time, though, it's possible I just didn't sign up to be notified of reunions. That, and I had no friends in high school so I had no reason to keep in touch with anyone interested in going.

Ours is all being done via facebook, it's the only reason I know about it.

If my class had a 5-year reunion, I didn't hear about it. Not sure how I feel about a potential 10-year. It wouldn't be for another four-ish years. If it happened right now, my attendance would be almost entirely dependent on whether my ex would be there or not (if I could even find that out) and whether my best friend would be there (which I certainly could find out, but she's in med school so might not be able to go).

Dunno how I'll feel about it in four years. Surprisingly little has changed in the *last* four years regarding how I feel about this particular weird nebulous situation, but a lot could still change in the next four, eh?

Luckily for me, they're running a poll on facebook with the answers being "yes", "yes with a date", "not sure" or "no" so I can see who might be there ahead of time.

Of course that's not a guarantee that anyone will or won't show up, but it's a start.

When I graduated high school, I was all for attending the reunion. And now? I just think if I haven't talked to these people in all these years, why start now?

My 30th (yes, 30th) high school reunion will be in a couple of weeks. I can tell you that if you're leaning toward not going, don't go. I went to a 10 year and vowed I'd never go again. All everyone did was drop back into their cliques and gossip about everyone's 'bad choices'. I can only imagine that after 30 years, they'll have even more to gossip about.
With that said, I have stayed in touch with my very good friends from school, so I can arrange to go have an inexpensive outing with them and enjoy myself. Don't pressure yourself to go if you're having doubts.

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Our 10 year is coming up next May and...I dunno. There's a few people I'd like to see, but I dunno.

My thoughts exactly. Which is why I wanted to see how others felt after going to theirs.

I didn't go to my 10-year and the reason was that as I scrolled through the list of folks who had RSVPed, I recognized almost none of the names and the ones I did had only be vague acquaintances. I didn't see the point in hanging out with people I didn't know/remember who didn't know/remember me. I might go to my 20th (coming up shockingly fast!) if I knew some of my old friends would be there. I've got a few old HS friends as Facebook friends now, so if it looks like someone is organizing a reunion, I'll discuss it with them.

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