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depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

how do you stop being paranoid and thinking everyone is out to get you and overanalyzing every little thing someone does or says? how do trust people?

like not trying to be profound, i was really hoping for some tricks because i swear my brain is determined to have me freak out about ppl 24/7

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[morieris]

I'm working on it...I started taking my medicine again because I want to be well enough to get a job at hte toy store.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

Exercise (do exercise videos if you're afraid of people looking at you

Look into therapy if you can afford it (if you're at a university they might have a therapist on site)

If not, look into CBT and combat your negative thought processes.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

Tagging along on this, "Mind Over Mood" was recommended to me, by someone who'd had it recommended to them by their psychiatrist, as a Cognitive Behavior Therapy workbook. If anyone's interested in checking that out.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

Ummmm. Well, first of all, in my experience, there's only so much you can do, with mental health stuff, purely by thinking your way through. There's a hard limit on it.

But second, I guess sometimes what helps is just trying to step back and create space between me and the feelings, and just trying to look at it in as realistic a light as possible. Or, sort of, what would your judgment be if you saw someone else in the same situation or a friend was asking you for advice. Because for me a lot of what happens is, like, you got so caught up in the immediacy of it and all this intense emotional shit that you have in your head and it completely colors everything, and so the most important thing is just being able to have that distance and challenge those judgments and re-channel your thoughts.

IDK man.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

First, you should definitely look into therapy. I'm not sure what sort of area you're in, but a lot do have low-cost options if money is a concern.

Secondly, and I don't know how helpful this actually is, but most of the world is way too focused on their own shit or too busy to be plotting against you or overanalyzing what you say. Everyone is caught up in themselves.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[sarillia]

You know those people you talk to occasionally but don't really think about much otherwise? And all those random people you pass by every day and maybe only spare a quick thought before forgetting about them? That's you to other people. The little thing you're overanalyzing, in 99% of cases, is going to be forgotten about by the other person because they are more wrapped up in their own lives.

I'm prone to that kind of paranoia and overanalyzing too. The latest thing is the last conversation I had with one of my professors. It helps to remind myself of how many other students she has and that there's not much reason for her to spend so much time thinking about me. Even as I'm overanalyzing this, I'm not really thinking about the rest of her life and basing my whole opinion of her on it, so why should I expect that from her?

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

First and foremost, remember that the world is not rigged against you, and 99.9% of all the people you will ever meet do not mean to harm you or cause you grief. Even if you don't believe it, remember it. Write it down on a piece of paper and carry it with you, if you need to.

Believe me, I know it's scary to just do everyday things like normal people do, but when you can muster up the courage to just say, "Screw it", and DO the thing - celebrate when things turn out well. Savor your victory and reward yourself for successfully doing something that scared the shit out of you. Next time, remember how well it went and it'll be easier.

Most people are not thinking about you as much as you think they are. Those little things they say and do usually don't have deeper hidden meanings. It's not a sly jab at you or a hint that they're expecting you to pick up on. Mostly, people don't analyze what comes out of their mouths as much as we analyze what goes into our ears. Take people on their word, and don't freak out if that means there's a miscommunication from time to time. It's part of being human. We're flawed, and that's absolutely okay.

And if you get through something, whether it turns out good or bad, and then find you have to crawl into bed and cry for 20 minutes because of it, that's okay too.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

You have to interrupt your own negative thought process. I know that sounds pretty dumb and basic, but letting yourself start that downward spiral of paranoid thinking just makes it worse. Being self aware and stopping before you've got the momentum going helps a lot. You can try the rubberband-around-the-wrist thing where you snap it lightly every time you want to discourage negative thinking. You can also try switching up what you're doing when the negative thoughts occur and have a pre set plan for what to do when that happens. Say that every time you start getting paranoid, you instead take a brisk jog around the block or do a dozen sit ups. Recite poetry from memory. Make it something physical and distracting.

If you find that you absolutely cannot do this (and it WILL take time and a lot of consistent effort) then it is absolutely time to consult a doctor and see if there are meds that can help. The other thing you can do is make sure you hang out with people who are trustworthy. Have you read Gavin de Becker's "The Gift of Fear"? Try it. It might help you to learn when those internal alarms are real and when they're probably not.

Re: depressed/anxious advice

[(Anonymous)]

I was like this about 8 years ago. I slowly stopped doing it after I found a place where I could live quietly and do what I wanted to do. It really helped. Maybe you just need a change of pace? It also helps to do constructive things or to listen to music when you are outside. This used to help me relax a lot.