[ SECRET POST #3220 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3220 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

One thing you might try. This is generally advice for people getting overwhelmed by someone needing them to ask for, but doing it proactively might help.

1. Have a set amount of vent time. 20 minutes, an hour, 800 words, whatever works for you. That's your vent time and it's when anxieties get vented.
2. Find topics other than your venting for the rest of the time.
3. Ask about your friend's life and do what you can to reciprocate based on ability.

You want to avoid a few things. You don't want to burn your friend out. You don't want to get in a cycle of "I feel like trash so I vent to my friend which is a trash thing to do which makes me feel even worse so I vent more..." And you don't want, if they ARE a friend, to cast them in the role of Helpy McHelperson where they define themselves as important because you neeeeeed them. This last one is unhealthy for everyone involved, sort of an emotional Munchhausen by proxy.

[(Anonymous)]

THIS. It's okay to rely on a friend for venting, but you need boundaries for both your sakes. Don't make your entire friendship a one-way emotional dump, because it's a really effective way to alienate a good friend. I don't mean to make you feel bad about this, OP, because it sounds like your friend is really nice and sympathetic. But you do want to make sure that you're taking care of their emotional needs in return for them caring about you.