[ SECRET POST #3222 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3222 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Death Parade]


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[From Dusk Till Dawn: The Series]


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[Sean Bean/Accused]


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[Bones/Sleepy Hollow]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I also had a fandom friend with BPD. She started off adoring me and acting kind of possessive of me as a friend, soon transitioned into becoming inexplicably angry whenever there was a single tiny thing we didn't agree about, and eventually our friendship ended with her saying "Fuck you for doing this to me." To this day I'm not entirely sure what, in her mind, I had done to her - made her feel bad, I guess?

Lucky for me, I'm not someone who needs to be needed, and needs to be of service to others (I'm on the selfish-but-self-sufficient end of the spectrum), because I think people who need to be needed and to do things for others are the people who will likely get pulled the deepest into cyclical, mindfuck relationships with BPD sufferers. Because with a BPD sufferer, you will feel special and needed. And then everything will destabilize and go to hell.

Honestly, as sad as it is, I would advise anyone contemplating becoming friends with a BPD sufferer to just not do it. Yes, everybody deserves friends, and everybody deserves a chance, but BPD is just...some kind of scary relationship house of mirrors, and it can be really, really hard to keep from losing your way and getting lost in it.


(It is worth pointing out that BPD is sometimes misdiagnosed. Unfortunately, women who suffer from depression and have a history of self-injury and attempted suicide are at significant risk of being falsely diagnosed with BPD, particularly if they've been deeply invested in a relationship which ended badly in their past. Some (shitty) psychiatrists will hear: female, depressed, attempted suicide, had a relationship go bad - and will jump to a BPD diagnosis.

IF someone has a BPD diagnosis and has sustained, longterm friendships that present as stable, their diagnosis is worthy of question. IF they do not seem overly reactive towards things/people/events in their life, that's also a question mark against their diagnosis. Ultimately, if there is NOT a feeling that the individual is volatile - that their feelings and behavior towards you are liable to change without cause or with only very slight provocation - then their diagnosis is worthy of question.

And above all, I am NOT a psychologist, so if you think you may be in a relationship with someone who has BPD, definitely don't just take my word for any of this.)