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⌈ Secret Post #3228 ⌋

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Re: Choosing between sibling and friend

[(Anonymous)]

So a while back my younger sibling was picked on by some bullies and one of the people in my friends circle defended her, as did the rest of us when we found out. Years later we mostly got along well, and a lot of my friends are cool with younger sib.

Recently the friend had a fight with the sibling and I'm not entirely sure on the details of the disagreement but the sibling came to me upset and I found out that my friend apparently told her that she regretted standing up for her because "She deserved what she got."

I went to find out the friends' side of it wondering if something was misunderstood. But nope, I find out that's exactly what my 'friend' said. And now the sibling is really upset. I listened to what happened. It was pretty petty IMO.

So I tried to confront the friend on what she said. All this "friend" has to say is "well she said this" "well she did this" and "well she's not entirely innocent." She's bringing up stuff from ages ago too. I did acknowledge the things she brought up for the most part. But at no point is she willing to take any responsibility. I even asked her "how would you feel if she said that to you" "YOU'RE MISSING THE POINT".

I'm pretty pissed and at this rate thinking she's not going to be a friend for much longer. I kind of feel a little betrayed that she would do this. How can she go from defending her to stabbing her in the back like this.

Re: Choosing between sibling and friend

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, I can't really say what I'd do, because I feel like there's something missing between what went on between your sibling and your friend.

For myself, I usually go to great pains to avoid choosing a side, unless I was there for the whole blowout and saw it myself. Otherwise, there is so much conflict that is based around misinterpretations and unintentional inferences and it just escalates - especially when people's emotions are running high. I have seen it, when I've witnessed a fight, and both people have different accounts of what happened exactly. They're not usually lying, it's just that emotions are running high, and both people focus in on the parts that hurt them, and don't remember their hits as clearly (or think that their hits weren't as hurtful).

I don't know; that probably doesn't help you, but inserting yourself in the middle doesn't always work out either. I'm presuming everyone involved is a now an adult, and honestly, I'd just stay out of it.

Re: Choosing between sibling and friend

[(Anonymous)]

Still telling someone who was bullied in the past "you deserved everything you got" over petty disagreements is not and will never be okay.

Re: Choosing between sibling and friend

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, it's a shitty remark, I totally agree on that.

Re: Choosing between sibling and friend

[(Anonymous)]

Don't choose between people; choose the side that you agree with. I won't back up my sibling, or my friend, if I think they're wrong just because they're my sibling/friend. I'll back them up when I agree with them on the issues.