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⌈ Secret Post #3235 ⌋

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Re: Whine about things here.

[(Anonymous)]

It was recently my birthday, and my longterm boyfriend ditched me to 'catch up' with a female friend. He had the entire day to himself, and we had plans to spend the night together, but his female friend wanted to 'hang out' last minute and he canceled to be with her. I told him this sort of upset me, and he told me I was being 'jealous and clingy' and it doesn't matter that it was my birthday. It's not a situation where he can never speak to this woman, or she lives out of town/state. He could have hung out with her any other time, but she wanted it then, and he feels that meant he 'had' to.

I've never had a problem with him being alone with his friends, so his reaction really confuses me. Maybe I am wrong for being upset?

Re: Whine about things here.

[(Anonymous)]

No, you're not wrong for being upset. It's one thing if he wants to hang out with his friend. It's another if he bails on you last minute to do so. And entirely another if he dismisses your reaction as jealousy. It's just damn rude. And hell, it didn't occur to him to inform the girl that you guys had plans, especially because it was your birthday?

I hate to say it, but he might have something to hide if he's making you out to be the bad guy here. Yes, friends are important, but if he's letting her dictate how he spends his time, then he's either an idiot who can't think for himself, or he's not being honest about the nature of their friendship. I mean... accusing you, his longtime girlfriend, of being jealous and clingy because you were upset (rightfully) that he bailed on your birthday, is a rather defensive reaction. It's entirely possible they feel as close as siblings and/or he's protective of her, but that doesn't give him the right to suddenly drop you just because she's suddenly wanting some buddy time.

Re: Whine about things here.

[(Anonymous)]

You're not wrong! It doesn't matter whether it was your birthday or not: a "friend" who bails on your existing plans at the last minute to spend time with someone else is disgustingly rude and inconsiderate. Unless there's some actual emergency, there's no excuse for that; he could always have made a date with her some time when he didn't have a commitment with you. Calling you "jealous and clingy" is his way of trying to excuse himself for his asshole behavior and put the guilt on you. What a dick!

Re: Whine about things here.

[(Anonymous)]

No, this seems unusually douchey. Is he usually a thoughtful, considerate person? My guess is no. Before you rush to defend him, think hard about his behavior in the past and I will bet you good money this isn't the first time he's pulled something like this. It won't be the last, either.

Re: Whine about things here.

[(Anonymous)]

What the fuck? That is ground for breaking up in my book. Doesn't matter that the friend he ditched you for was female, I'd have been equally pissed if my guy had blown me off on my birthday to hang with his bros when we had made prior plans. I would never do something like that to even a friend, let alone my longterm partner.