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⌈ Secret Post #3255 ⌋

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[Paul Walker, Fast and Furious movies]

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[Inuyasha]

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[Z Nation]

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[Hugh Dancy (and Claire Danes)]

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[Jessica Jones]

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[The Oatmeal]

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[Star Wars: The Old Republic]

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[Harry Potter]

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like... i've spent a lot of time in default-female spaces. I've seen a lot of flailing over deliciously muscled hunks of man-meat. I ain't never seen anyone freaking out like "OMG he's so chubby!" or "OMG he's so kind!!!"

And that's fine. Preferences are what they are. But it gets my goat a bit when people also want to pretend that they're so enlightened and really don't find hot the things that society considers hot.

*shrug* Whatevs. I don't drool, but I acknowledge that Chris Hemsworth is considered a fine hunk of man-meat and I guess I sort of admire the dedication and self sacrifice it takes to achieve that body. But he doesn't do anything for me and given the choice between him and one of my (admittedly less muscled and fit) fandom crushes, it's no contest.

But FYI, when I like chubby dudes, it's not the weight I'm drooling over. It's them, total package. So it comes out more like, "OMG Kevin Smith is so freaking adorable and I would make out with him all day long!" and not "Ooh, check out his muffin top aw yeaaaaaaah..."

You can be skeptical all you want, but I think the issue is more complex than you realize.

maybe you only hear people talking about conventionally "hot" muscular bodies because that's what society has told them they can find attractive? and they're afraid their friends will call them pedos if they like slimmer/leaner bodies or freaks if they like chubby bodies? I and many others spent my teenage years agreeing with whatever bland celeb boy the other girls found hot, this is just a grown up version of that.

Even in predominantly female spaces, there's still considerable pressure to NOT express attraction to unconventional beauty. So drooling over say, Chris Evans will mean lots of sincere agreement and positive reinforcement for your opinion, but drooling over someone who falls outside those conventions will get you a lot of negative reinforcement so people tend to keep quiet. In public, at least. In fandom spaces where people of like mind group together, people will tend to be more open about their preferences. Look at Benedict Cumberbatch-- a lot of people think he's got a face like a foot, but there are hundreds if not thousands of women who'd gladly polish his knob without a second's hesitation.

I don't think people are lying about being so "enlightened" (although I don't regard it as being enlightened, only as being human) as to be attracted to people society doesn't find hot. It's obvious people are thus attracted if you just look around you in the real world. Are all the married/partnered men you know smoking hotties with washboard abs? Of course they aren't. But somehow, they still find girlfriends and wives who love them, lust after them, and want to spend their lives with them. Ditto how not all partnered/married women are size 2 supermodels with D-cups and perfect skin.

Dude, when I say I'm not attracted to muscled men, I'm not fucking acting "enlightened". That's my actual preference. And this attitude contributes to non-conventional preferences being dismissed and ultimately to men thinking all women really want the same thing and it's pretty annoying. I urge you to challenge yourself to overcome that disbelief because many women are NOT lying when they say they prefer something else.

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