[ SECRET POST #3256 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3256 ⌋

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[The Man From U.N.C.L.E.]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I think it's the way you're framing it.

"Ew, put something in a guy's butt? GRoooOoOss" sounds a lot more homophobic and prejudiced against men who like anal play, than "I don't want to interact with anyone's else's ass, male or female."

Unless you'd be totally fine with a woman's ass, and then you might want to think about that more

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[(Anonymous)]

I completely agree with this. In fact, I've heard a lot of LGBTQIA+ people cite this kind of thing as a reason they don't really like the slash community. It's that "I'd NEVER do anal!" reaction. The thing that girls who read slash don't understand is that if you don't want to do the sex thing in question, that's cool. It's your body.

But your reasons shouldn't be something you'd hear come out of a homophobe's mouth (unless you want to sound like one). "Oh that's so gross" or "It's a visceral turn off." Because that sends the message that you don't care about gay men any farther than "fictional gay guys are hot". It's the perpetuation of the "gay sex is dirty" message that society so often sends.

That's not helped by the empty pseudo-feminist "This sex thing isn't about GIRLS" message. Which is ridiculous since, if the girl initiated it, she is obviously getting something out of it. Made worse by the "I'm bisexual" comment, since your experience doesn't exactly trump the experience of others. You can't guarantee that you can't or won't say something offensive if you're part of the community.

TL;DR: OP needs to stop pointing fingers and making excuses and understand that you can say "I don't want this" without basically saying that homosexuality is gross. Bisexuality is not a defense card, op. Stop being gross.

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[diet_poison]

I think you're reaching really hard to say that saying HETEROSEXUAL anal play is a visceral turn-off is homophobic. It's OK to be turned off by things. Furthermore, that approach perpetuates the idea that anal sex = gay sex, which is not correct.

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[(Anonymous)]

I completely agree with you there.

[diet_poison]

First, I did not think OP's message came across like that at all

Second, why should she have to justify if she wants to mess with a woman's ass but not a man's?