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⌈ Secret Post #3264 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Folgers Coffee Commercial]

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08. http://i.imgur.com/DKoxG0z.jpg
[linked for porn; anime character + random dick]

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09. [SPOILERS for London Spy]

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10. [SPOILERS for Fargo]

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11. [SPOILERS for Borderlands 2]

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12. [WARNING for rape]

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13. [WARNING for incest]

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14. [WARNING for suicide]

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15. [WARNING for abuse]

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16. [WARNING for rape]

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17. [WARNING for rape]
http://i.imgur.com/nxf1nRw.jpg
[nudity, porn star James Deen]

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18. [WARNING for rape]

[The Tempest]

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19. [WARNING for noncon/rape]

[Hannibal]

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When did we start talking about scientific facts? I thought the original question was "Do you think hetmale doms are creepy?" which she answered. It's all about personal experiences! And you also cited your personal experiences so I don't get why you're NOW saying that this is all about STATISTICS. You can't have math AND feelings, herpy, pick a side!

But I'm not really sure you and chard are even having the same conversation, you seem to be talking past each other here, hence my confusion.

Good day to you both!

I made have expressed myself poorly. I meant to say that a person can call themselves a hetmale dom without all the identity baggage that seems to come with it for a certain subset of people who seem to be heavily into the "lifestyle" part of the equation.

I thought chard was disagreeing with that? If not, my bad lol.

Maybe this is where we disagree.

See, if a guy is telling me he's a dom... then he's either pretty likely going to be part of that lifestyle or it's something really important to him! Otherwise, how do I know?

If a guy confides this on like the third date or something, and isn't making a big deal of it, that's different. There's a difference between "I am a Dom!" and "I am calling this being a dom because I don't have another word for it, but clearly I've been interacting with you as a normal dude too."

I have certain kinky things I'm into. I am never in a million years telling the vast majority of my friends. I'm a bit more open about it here because people don't know my name or face. If I tell my friend "Hey, Sarah, I'm really into ____!" I must be really, really, really fucking into _____.

Edited 2015-12-12 02:10 (UTC)

I think that's the root of the issue, yeah.

It seems there are a few subsets of people. I will say I'm a thing without being into that thing pretty frequently, just because it denotes a casual hobby or interest.

So I could theoretically say, "I'm a polyamourous bisexual man!" and still have never once set foot at a Pride event or similar (activism/protests not included) because I don't really tie that into my identity. I don't feel strongly about it.

So "het male dom" nice guy is probably in my boat, where he's just using that to categorize himself. It's not really a personal identity, it just describes a thing he finds sexually arousing sometimes.

Does that make sense?

"I'm a polyamourous bisexual man!"

Okay, see: this is a different thing. Bisexuality is a sexual orientation. Polyamory is how you engage in relationships--or an orientation. Either way.

"Dom" is neither of these things. It's a bondage-related sexual role.

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