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fandomsecrets2015-12-11 06:13 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2015-12-11 06:13 pm
[ SECRET POST #3264 ]
⌈ Secret Post #3264 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Folgers Coffee Commercial]
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08. http://i.imgur.com/DKoxG0z.jpg
[linked for porn; anime character + random dick]
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09. [SPOILERS for London Spy]
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10. [SPOILERS for Fargo]
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11. [SPOILERS for Borderlands 2]
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12. [WARNING for rape]
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13. [WARNING for incest]
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14. [WARNING for suicide]
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15. [WARNING for abuse]
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16. [WARNING for rape]
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17. [WARNING for rape]
http://i.imgur.com/nxf1nRw.jpg
[nudity, porn star James Deen]
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18. [WARNING for rape]
[The Tempest]
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19. [WARNING for noncon/rape]
[Hannibal]
Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 000 secrets from Secret Submission Post #466.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
Re: Absolutely.
Okay, so let me get this straight. You--a dude--are telling a woman who's hinted very strongly she's into kink that she shouldn't trust her experiences with guys into the same things? That's like me telling you what the gay/bi male community is like and that you shouldn't give advice based on things you've actually experienced.
Yeah, this sure sounds like a study that'd actually get funded.
No, but again, one of us is female and the other isn't. Your experiences with hetero guys are by definition really different! They aren't trying to date you. They aren't sending you weird messages.
Look at it this way: assault is absolutely 100% never the victim's fault. But if a younger friend comes up to me and says "hey! there's this frat on campus known for really shady shit holding a party this weekend, should I go alone and get wasted, maybe I'll meet a nice guy" you know damn well what my advice is going to be. And it's not going to involve looking up a study about frat boys so I can provide detailed statistics.
Re: Absolutely.
I'm not sure you're focusing on anything but accusing me of speaking over women at this point though so... I'm just going to bow out.
Re: Absolutely.
I'm pointing it out because you're a good dude and I know you don't mean to. Like I said: by definition you're just not seeing the same stuff. And... look, may I be blunt? I generally don't talk about my worst sexual experiences with guy friends, even very close guy friends. It just won't come up. That doesn't mean they don't trust you or aren't close to you. I'm just saying... well, you're a guy. Just like my guy friends aren't going to talk about certain things with me.
Re: Absolutely.
I don't really have close male friends, per se (well okay, I have one or two, but they're largely not really a part of my life these days).
My close female friends are the only friends with whom I share terrible/traumatic experiences, and in return they talk about similar ordeals. I'd rather not get into specifics.
I don't expect that to be the case for most female-male friendships, but it's true for me personally. The reality that you're talking about might be a common (heteronormative?) one, but it's not my reality.