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⌈ Secret Post #3277 ⌋

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Does anyone else feel really uncomfortable with getting help for free from other people?

Our family dentist is an old family friend and insists on doing everything for free. I was fine with it as a kid, but now that I'm an adult it feels awkward. Plus, he's my parents friend, so it feels like he's doing it for them and not really for me even though my parents insist it is fine.

So I've had a toothache for a week and a half and have been hiding it because of how uncomfortable it makes me. I can't exactly afford another dentist on account of being broke right now. I finally blurted it out when my mother asked what was wrong when I was annoyed and clearly in pain. So now we're calling the dentist on Monday. And the whole thing still makes me uncomfortable. I'd rather sit it out in pain.

I also feel uncomfortable, especially with people who are sort of tit-for-tat folks, because then I feel I owe them a favor.

However, in your case, i'd say bite the bullet. Your health s more important.

Get them something small but nice in return as thanks. Cookies or christmas candies or something you can get for very cheap. They'll appreciate the gesture

+1.

Since you need the help I think you should take it, but you can always do something small for them in return so they'll understand how much you appreciate it.

get him a gift.

As someone who hasn't been able to afford to go to the dentist in years and definitely has cavities, I would actually feel grateful to have someone willing to help me. I have to pay for everything myself and barely scrape by, so I would definitely accept if someone offered. I'd try to do something nice in exchange, but I couldn't afford to turn it down and I think that you are fortunate to have the opportunity.

I totally get that. I guess it's just...my parents are missionaries (whole other rant on how I feel about their job which I won't go into). But it meant that all through my childhood we were living off money other people gave us and every time we came back to the US we would go around asking for money. And I always hated that. So I am grateful, it just feels uncomfortable.

I understand it feeling uncomfortable. It's how I felt having to get loans from my mother and sister for vet bills for my cat and hospital bills for me. But it had to be done, as I couldn't let my cat die and I couldn't have survived without treatment for my kidney stones. You say you are looking for a job and haven't found one, so what really are your options? You can't pay for it. And waiting will just make it get worse and more expensive to treat in addition to the pain. Obviously, the decision is up to you, but just know that other people would love to have opportunities that you have been presented.

Yes.

I can understand discomfort with getting help from other people, but honestly, this isn't the time. You don't want to fuck around with dental issues because if it's an infection, not only is it likely to get worse the longer you wait, but the treatment will be more complicated and more expensive as well. Any good dentist will tell you they'd MUCH rather do preventative care rather than dealing with the ugly fallout that occurs when people let their teeth go untreated.

So basically, you let this go, it might turn into something truly ugly, and your family dentist you didn't want to impose upon would probably have to sort you out anyway, only now his job will be worse than if you'd just sucked it up and gone to him first.

You're right. I was hoping to wait it out until I found a job, but I don't know when that will happen and I just need to suck it up.

Nope. Not uncomfortable at all.

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