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[ SECRET POST #3286 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3286 ⌋

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People are allowed to not like looks, even generally-accepted-as-attractive looks. Because we're all into different things. We're all unique snowflakes with our own tastes.

Also? You need to work on your self-esteem, if people insulting other people has a direct effect on you.

Sure, but there's no need to go on and on about how ugly someone is. I don't find everyone attractive, but I don't feel much of a need to tell everyone about it.

(also, no one ever said or implied that people were not "allowed" to not like someone's looks. I'm getting so sick of this "I'm allowed to..." or sarcastic "I guess no one is allowed to...." whenever someone encounters an opinion they don't agree with. NO ONE IS TELLING YOU YOU AREN'T ALLOWED TO DO ANYTHING.)

Okay then, we're in agreement. People are allowed to have opinions, and OP's just gonna have to deal with it.

No one (including the OP) ever said that anyone wasn't "allowed" to have opinions. I'm not even sure why you'd bring up the idea of being "allowed" to do something since it has nothing to do with the secret or topic.

Well, I guess you did just because it's what people do now. You can't disagree with someone's opinion without some idiot going "they're ALLOWED to have that opinion!!!" like disagreeing with their opinion is some attempt at forbidding them to have that opinion.

And while of course it's fine for people to have opinions, it isn't necessary to spout them off all the time. I don't generally comment about the looks of people I don't find attractive, and that doesn't make me feel like whining about how I should be "allowed" to do so. Of course it's allowed, that doesn't mean you have to do it.

I made a comment with 40+ words, and you fixated on a single word to be an asshole over. I am not playing your game today, troll.

I'm not trolling or being an asshole.

The "allowed" response annoys me, because it's basically trying to paint the person you disagree with as making an attempt to censor you. They said they didn't like your opinion, so they must be telling you you're "not allowed" to have the opinion! Only they weren't.

I know you're not consciously doing it, it's just what people do now. But it's annoying. Find a new way to respond to people instead of saying you're allowed to do whatever. Unless the person actually said you weren't allowed to do it, which the OP of this secret did not do.

Thank you. You just said everything I wanted to say to this 'allowed to' business.

+1

I find it funny when someone says "it's hurtful when someone says so and so" and the response is a kneejerk "so I'm not ALLOWED to have an opinion" , if only because they're showing they know what they're doing is probably rude and harming someone, but at the same time the realization bothers them.

Funny and kind of sad.

Or maybe they say it because the thing they are allowed to do is a normal thing and the person complaining needs to grow up and learn to deal with the world and the people in it, who are not required to coddle them.

Translation: I want to be an asshole and I'm going to whinge at anyone pointing out my assholish behaviour.

See previous comment. Work on that. The world isn't going to change for you, sweetie.

Wow, you're seriously butthurt that people are calling you out for being an asshole aren't you.

I'm not butthurt, and I'm also not an asshole. You'd think that you insulting me and trying to put words in my mouth would make me cry so many tears, but it's not. I just find you tedious at this point.

Aw, you sound butthurt.

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(Anonymous) - 2016-01-03 00:27 (UTC) - Expand

But they called the poster "sweetie!" Thus they totally obliterated his/her point!

Don't you know you're automatically right if you call someone a pet name condescendingly?

Regardless of whether it's normal, there's no need to bring up the fact that you're allowed to do it unless someone is saying you aren't.

If what you mean is "this is a normal thing to do" then SAY "this is a normal thing to do" not "I'm allowed to do X." The latter comment has nothing to do with anything unless someone actually said you aren't allowed to do something.

Anyway, if you feel like someone complaining about something is an attempt at forbidding you from doing something, then maybe you need to grow up and address or respond to people's complaints instead of hiding behind a pretense that the complainer is trying to censor you. In other words, deal with the fact that people disagree with you and that it is normal for them to express that disagreement.

You understood the point, did you not? Then don't be a fucking pedantic asshole about how people word things. Problem solved.

It's not being pedantic to point out that words have meanings. If you say "I'm allowed to do X" how the hell is anyone supposed to know what you really mean is "doing X is normal?"

This is another things that's become normal that I hate. People saying any old crap and insisting that it means something other than what it usually means. And expecting everyone to know what they mean despite that.

It's not being pedantic to point out that words have meanings.

It literally is, though.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/pedant

pedant
noun
1.
a person who makes an excessive or inappropriate display of learning.
2.
a person who overemphasizes rules or minor details.
3.
a person who adheres rigidly to book knowledge without regard to common sense.
4.
Obsolete. a schoolmaster.

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(Anonymous) - 2016-01-03 03:20 (UTC) - Expand

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In the last two days I've seen a ton of anons with this attitude and it's really infuriating.

There's at least some degree of difference between the jokier responses (like comparing Benedict Cumberbatch to an Animorphs character) and straight-up Ugly Anon. And people like Ugly Anon will not shut up about whichever folks they think are too "ugly" to hold such-and-such a role. It gets pretty tiresome.

I have never once considered that Ugly Anon actually thinks all those people are ugly.

People are allowed to think you're an asshole for attacking someone's looks, especially when WOMEN (every picture in the OP was of a woman) are already so, so, SO nitpicked about their appearance.

Also? Don't get butthurt when people criticize your being an asshole. You need to work on your self-esteem if that bothers you.

Nice try, turning my words back on me! Try harder next time.

Not OP, but I don't have a self-esteem anymore after being bullied for years in high school for being ugly. They made me feel like I'm scum and have no worth as a human being because of my looks. To this day I still have social anxiety.

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