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⌈ Secret Post #3307 ⌋

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Comments

Re: 'Harmful' Beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

I dunno. As someone who was bullied pretty heavily as a preteen, I think everyone has the potential to be a bully. If you're going through some nasty shit or don't have good coping methods, you're probably not gonna be fun to be around and might take that out on others. Excusing it with trama reason aren't gonna get you anywhere.

But imo a lot of bullying comes from there's this sort of kinship on having someone to rail on about. And if you got some socially awkward kid who doesn't bathe much and isn't fun to be around, it's a pretty easy target. Like occasionally there's a kid who obviously starting shit, but most of the time it's just people who feel peer pressured into. It's not a calculated effort, just something to pass the time.

Like I mean, if you look in pretty much any group there's a sort of scapegoat. It might be a more vague group of people, but if you got an easy go to, it's easy to find things unrelated to pin on it.

Re: 'Harmful' Beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

I have a question. If one of those bullies came up to you now and apologised unreservedly and explained that they'd been a messed up kid and why - how do you think you'd feel? Would it be unwelcome to you? Or do you think it would be cathartic, even just a tiny bit?

I owe someone an apology of this type and I'm trying to work out whether I should speak to them or not. The last thing I want to do is cause them more pain.

Re: 'Harmful' Beliefs

[(Anonymous)]

I actually had someone who felt pretty bad about being mean to me apologize, but I didn't think that they were all that bad about it in the first place. It was more like, "Oh, didn't realize you thought you were all that mean to me in the first place. No hard feelings, I guess." But they more went along with other people being mean than starting stuff on their own, dunno what your case is like.

I mean, it varies person to person, but I personally don't hold on grudges much, so I don't really think about that I was bullied pretty bad until it's brought up and even then it's more like "oh yeah that happened" than feeling sad or upset about it. I appreciated the effort and it's nice to know that they felt bad about it, but you get the feeling it's more about them resolving their own guilt than it ever was about you, especially if it's been awhile.

Might be best just to write a letter about how you feel and don't send it.