[ SECRET POST #3308 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3308 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Inspired by #1

[(Anonymous)]

I had a low-key fandom friend who was always always engulfed in drama, and one night she sent me about 10 texts about typical drama (she said on FB that she'd had a good day; someone replied "did I make it bad?" and she freaked out about how this girl "was out to get her"). I gave a really lackluster response and she was like "ugh, what's up with you?" to which I responded "really bad tbh," as I'd just gotten some AWFUL family news. She didn't answer for a long time and I could tell she was pissed, so I was like "sorry, not up to sugar-coating." I meant that was "wow, I could have been more tactful," and obviously I didn't phrase it great, but she got really mad. When I said I could never tell what was going to upset her, she WENT OFF on me for being emotionally abusive and manipulative--a claim she backed up with "what I learned in psychology 101." Apparently my line about sugar-coating was, in her head, me saying that she was emotionally unstable (?). She yelled at me for a few hours, made a few huge dramatic tumblr posts about how ~somEONE~ was making her want to relapse on her self-harm, and we never spoke again.

Re: Inspired by #1

[(Anonymous)]

You're definitely better off without her. She's not looking for friends, she just wants people to provide unquestioning affirmation of whatever she wants to do.

Re: Inspired by #1

[a_potato]

It sounds rather like she was projecting her own emotionally abusive and manipulative tendencies onto you.

Re: Inspired by #1

[(Anonymous)]

When I said I could never tell what was going to upset her, she WENT OFF on me for being emotionally abusive and manipulative--a claim she backed up with "what I learned in psychology 101."

Oh, FUCK these kinds of people. Yeah, it's great you (in general) learn something in college, but it doesn't make you an expert, and more importantly, it's not fucking ammo to use on people! Especially on the ones you care about. JFC.

These kinds of folks have issues you can't fix. I won't discount their claims that something bad may have happened to them at some point in the past, but they are perpetual, professional victims, even though they in fact are the ones abusing you. If it wasn't your "sugar coating" comment that set her off, trust me, it would have been something else on another day. You are soooooooooo better off without her.