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⌈ Secret Post #3317 ⌋

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My sister has been having money troubles because of unexpected medical problems. She is also the one going on a vacation to DC with me. She should be getting a tax refund back which I would like her to use towards her bills, instead of towards our trip (like she said it would be used for).

How do I tell her not to worry about paying for anything without sounding condescending or like I pity her? I have over $2000 in the bank for this trip and I should be able to pay for all the food, activities we do (especially since most of the museums are free).

Tell her you she can always return the favor later.

She may consider it too big to be a favor.

If she considers it too big to be a favor, she may consider it too big to be a gift. The favor part wasn't what I was getting at, anyway. If you give her the option to pay you back over time, later, instead of making it like charity, she may be more comfortable accepting it.

Ah, that is one of the things I was thinking. Telling her she could just pay it back later. That makes sense. Maybe a combination of both gift and pay back.

If you're worried about the money part of it you can tell her you trust her to pay you back over time whether it's through money or helping you out or whatever else, she would have done that for you anyway right

Yeah, I hope she knows that by now, but I will tell her again.

How about make it a "Christmas gift" or something along those lines?

Also, that way you don't actually have to worry about trying to pick out a gift for whatever occasion it's a gift for.

That could work. Because her birthday is in August so by then she will forget I said the trip was a birthday and I can buy her something (I buy her random gifts all the time).

The other way to approach it is to tell her you'll put it all on your credit card and tell her she can pay you back if she wants and just forget to ask for it.

Yeah, that is what I am going to work into the "pay me back later" conversation. Because I WILL be using my credit card because I get cash back.

My cousin was unemployed for almost a year, but we still wanted to go to movies and eat at restaurants once in a while. I told him it was 'on me', and at some point when he was back on his feet, he could 'pay back' the favor. It made it so much easier when it was times to pay the check at the restaurants, etc. He always said, "Thank you," and I told him, "Don't worry about it."
He's been employed now for a few months and we went out over the holidays. I figured that he was still working through debt, so I just grabbed the check at the end of the meal. He stopped me and said, "Let me get it. I owe you a couple of dinners." I just told him 'thanks' and that was it.
So, long story leads up to 'tell her you've got the money now' and she can return the favor later. Hopefully she'll not see it as charity, but as a way that you can still hang out and do cool things without having to worry about the money part.

Thank you. I'll tell her that she can return the favor (by whatever means) later.

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