[ SECRET POST #3329 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3329 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

i don't think my usual advice will work here, but what i tend to say is that to avoid objectifying someone you need to remember one thing: they are not their body. inside that body they are a person that will probably find your attention abhorrent. remember that and act accordingly and you will avoid creepiness and objectifying behaviour.

[(Anonymous)]

Why won't that advice work here?

[(Anonymous)]

Cause she's a lesbian, not an LSM.

Not AYRT, btw, just guessing.

[flipthefrog.livejournal.com]

>they are a person that will probably find your attention abhorrent

What the fuck? This is, like, the fucking opposite of true. I don't give two shits one way or the other if, when I go out in public, every person on the street is imagining me naked and horny; I care if someone acts on that desire. Especially at a con, where most people dress up because they're proud of their costume and are aware that people are going to be looking at them.

Obviously this doesn't apply if you're catcalling or touching yourself inappropriately at the girl or whatever (those are actions!) But seriously, stop beating yourself up over thoughtcrime. Being attracted to someone on a physical level is a thing nobody can control.

[(Anonymous)]

Urg, thank you.

I was thinking the same thing.

[diet_poison]

Ehhh. I'd be very uncomfortable to know that someone was imagining me naked and horny on the street.

But no, it's not a crime to think that, and as long as they don't give any indication to me that they're doing it, I won't know, so it won't really matter to me.

[(Anonymous)]

Lol, somehow I highly doubt a cosplayer is going to go "Oh noez, she finds me dressed up as this sexy sexy character visually arousing, how disgusting of her, I feel so violated!"

Like I understand what you're saying, and it definitely applies to certain things like the fetishization of trans people specifically for their genitalia/body matchup (no "chicks with dicks" or "cunt boys" fetishization welcome there), and it applies to situations where people are not actively trying to be sexy and garner a reaction, but OP was at a con where people are literally competing to see who can do the most sexy, on-model cosplay. Like I highly doubt Melona here (http://i.gzn.jp/img/2010/03/21/moehaku2010_costume_play/DSC_1124.JPG) or Sexy Boba Fett (http://i.imgur.com/9yHZJKE.jpg) (I legit typoe'd this as Booba Fett) is going to be like "I REJECT YOU BEING ATTRACTED TO ME, HOW DISGUSTING!"