[ SECRET POST #3329 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3329 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Frowny face

[herpymcderp]

Speaking as a bisexual vegetarian who is ....well, let's just say a fuck of a lot more moderate than most of the people who wear that sort of title...

My advice is to just hear her out completely and decide if there's enough commonality that you feel similarly about the core issues.

Using an example from my own life: I and my SO have differing views about sustainability (and meat eating), but I'm not fussed about her having them. I accommodate them, really, because they're complex issues with solutions that don't work the same way for everyone. And I'm aware that my views are not ultimately correct for every circumstance. Not everyone is equipped to stop eating meat. I appreciate that she will eat my cooking when she's home, and that she feels the same as I do about commercial farming practices and animal welfare issues.

We don't have to absolutely agree about the details to essentially be on the same page; asking her full opinion is also a good way to know how far the judgement goes, and if she's the kind of vegan who is going to go all MEAT IS MURDER on you or if she's a live and let live sort. I don't generally judge people who eat meat unless they're also the type of person who drives a gas guzzler, hunts for sport, and buys paper plates to throw in the garbage because they don't want to do dishes.

I'd also side-eye any vegan who claims to know "better" when it comes to animals, to be frank. Unless they are an animal behaviourist, and they've spent a significant amount of time in academia separating their feelings about animals from their ideas about how to interact with animals, I generally fear that that kind of person anthropomorphizes animals overmuch. That winds up being a bad scene for the animal in question, when the pet guardian isn't aware of basic behaviour and feels that something is "cruel" when in fact it's a natural social cue for an animal to respond to.

So, that's why you talk to her. You find out whether those problems are going to be problems. If they're not, great! If they are... well, maybe consider a more casual route.

Re: Frowny face

[caerbannog]

So far so good I think, we're doing that gentle hovering around each other and scoping each other out kind of thing. Or at least I am, no idea what she is at and I'll get to that bridge when I reach it.

I'm crossing fingers she's the live and let live sort. For example, her dog is still eating meat and we had a discussion on which animals are more ethical to feed your pet (we both agreed kangaroos are pretty ethical for example, and we both agreed the vegan who wants to "free" their dog by letting it be offlead EVERYWHERE was an irresponsible idiot).

I brought vegan cupcakes to our hang out though, she liked them! They were very fluffy.

Re: Frowny face

[herpymcderp]

Well, I will keep my fingers crossed for you that when all the cards come out on the table they are not cards of firey death and sadness.