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(David Bowie)

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(Great British Bake Off for Sports Relief, Ed Balls)

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[Pokemon]

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[Star Wars: TFA]

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[Damian Lewis, Dick Winters, Band Of Brothers]

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[Daughter of the Lilies]

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[David Eddings]

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[Sengoku Basara]

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[JJBA]

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[Men In Black I, II, III]

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I hear the same thing from my bff about birth and everything else. She got some pretty disgusting comments from a mother's group on facebook about feeding formula, even though she couldn't breastfeed for medical reasons. That really pissed me off.

Just this attitude about what is right and wrong about every decision and moment of pregnancy and birth and caring for a baby is really not okay. Even having negative thoughts seems worthy of punishment to some people.

I wish sex ed in schools did a better job about educating for reality rather than marriage -> problem-free pregnancy -> happy life. We don't ever really talk about miscarriage rates, delivery complications, etc.
Considering some teenagers will experience these things with unplanned pregnancy, they're not made aware of them until they're already pregnant, which isn't a thing that should be happening in this century.

Your feelings are completely valid and healthy, is what I'm saying. Everyone has their own experience and nobody should feel like they can't talk or seek support from other people.

Breastfeeding vs. formula pisses me right the fuck off. I'm breastfeeding, and it works for me, and now that I'm five months in, it's super easy. But not everyone can breastfeed, and not everyone wants to breastfeed, and we've come far enough along that formula is nutritionally equivalent to breast milk. Fed is best, full stop.

I wish sex ed in schools was better about preparing people, as well. I wish doctors were better about preparing people. I wish society in general was better about preparing people. I wish it was okay to say, "bringing a new life into this world is neat, and watching a new human develop is cool, but you're gonna fucking hate it and wanna be somewhere else at times, and you may not feel attached to your kid for two or three months."

Blah, I dunno. I just agree with you.

Yes to all of that. Yes.

I really don't like how unimportant recovery is perceived to be for new mothers, too. My friend called me crying because her family left her by herself and she couldn't hold the baby for very long because she was so sore and she felt like she was doing the wrong thing by the baby and I was like, oh my god woman. Get back in bed. You'd better be in that bed when I get there.
God forbid you should not leap up from the hospital bed ready to do everything yourself the very day you pop out the kid.
Any other medical procedure, and people would be like "get lots of rest!" but if it's childbirth it's more like "get up and do all the things!".

I dislike the idea that deviating from the ideal image of motherhood makes you a bad person or woman or mother.

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