[ SECRET POST #3335 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3335 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.
(Red Dead Redemption, The Witcher 3: Wild Hunt)


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02. [repeat]


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03.
[Star Trek: The Next Generation]


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04.
[One Direction, "What Makes You Beautiful"]


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06.
[Hanayome wa Motodanshi]


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07.
[Driver: San Francisco, Jun and Ayumu]


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08.
[Naruto]


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10.
[Ash Ketchum/Professor Oak]


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Comments

Re: Relationship Advice.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not going to suggest you dump him, and as you've said, you've already made it clear how much you dislike these videos and he's agreed not to watch them while you're around. My suggestion is to let it go. You're right, you can't tell your boyfriend to stop watching them without sounding like a controlling shrew. What if you were a huge Star Trek fan but your boyfriend hated Star Trek, so you agreed that you'd only watch ST when he's not around. Would it be fair for him to ask you not to watch it at all? Of course not. Because that would make him a controlling asshole. You get to decide what to do with your spare time, just like he gets to decide what to do with his spare time. You do not get to dictate each other's hobbies and interests.

I fully understand why you'd be cautious about your BF absorbing such toxic MRA bullshit. I agree that it's a bad idea to watch these videos and that your BF is probably full of it when he spins it as "he likes to hear other opinions". I absolutely thing there is something he's getting from these videos that he enjoys, but clearly he can't or won't admit it to himself and/or you.

But there is nothing you can do to control this.

What you can do is be watchful of his behavior. Does the MRA bullshit come out in how he behaves? Do you find that he's parroting those toxic ideas or misogyny? If so, address the behavior, not the videos. The behavior is what affects you. If he's not showing any signs of devolving into a total turdmuffin, then I'd let it go. For now. But I'd consider this a red flag. You don't have to ditch a relationship at the first red flag, but it's important to recognize them for what they are if/when they turn up.