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F!S Anon Meme (the ??th!)

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List of threads:

Favorite FSers
Your diehard fandoms
NSFW confession thread
Topics you wish FS would stop wanking about
What do you want FS to talk about more?
(Pan)fandom discussion post
General opinions
Fapping material?
Random rants

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My partner doesn't fuck me or even play with me sexually when I'm in the mood and he's not (and he's rarely in the mood - like once a week at best) and I, mean, it's been 10 years of hardly any sex and I'm just really sick of it today. Most days I'm super apathetic about life, period, but today I care and I want to get fucked - like I want some rough, nasty sex. I want someone to eat my ass and make me squirt on their fucking face and I want to get my ass fucked and then get their cock (or fingers or toy if it's a girl) to be shoved in my mouth - like that's how nasty I want it. I want omorashi and spanking until I bruise and I want to be choked and... well, anyway. I'm super sexually frustrated and usually my own hand is better than sex, but that's not cutting it lately either.

Time to talk about opening up that relationship, nonny.

Haha. I have. Several times. He gets mad when I ask so I stopped asking. He's super insecure. I've actually cheated too, once-ish. So, I mean, I'm basically a disgusting human being but I don't care. I just want sex. He could satisfy me if he just tried a little. Like, he was spanking me a little today and I was starting to get into it and then he was like "I'm tired now; I want to go sit down." And so I got pouty because I was getting into that zone, you know, and it's weird to just be jerked out of it with no release. And then he got all defensive because apparently I hate him which is not even true at all, I just want a little sexual satisfaction, please.

nayrt

Maybe you should stop asking and start telling.

Ayrt

Did that too. It took a while for our relationship to recover.

It's not disgusting to have needs (rather, it's human) but it's kind of selfish to not make take clear and decisive action with a partner.

If you need sex and he's not willing or able to fulfill that need then he needs to make the choice between letting you go elsewhere to get it or ending the relationship. It's pretty simple, really.

Ayrt

I'm really selfish because I don't want to break up with him, ever, but I'm beyond jaded, really. When I'm depressed my sex drive is pretty much gone, so it doesn't matter, but when i cycle out of depression into whatever this is where I'm not just hard-up but hypersexual, I get all desperate and start thinking about looking elsewhere. Honestly, he's lucky I'm a ugly, social anxiety ridden fucker because he doesn't really have to worry about me seeking anything out. (That one time was a drunk thing and I quit drinking.) I just whine on the internet and hope that maybe a tumblr mutual will have a chat with me that verges on flirty or gets into rp territory.

I've made my needs clear many, many times, but he's depressed right now too so I can't get too upset since he has no sex drive normally plus depression.

Okay, first of all, I really don't agree with the idea that you're too ugly or too much of a fucker to ever find anyone else. That's nonsense, okay?

And I don't think it's selfish. It's a frustrating solution and there isn't any easy answer at all - cheating (outside an open relationship) is wrong, breaking up with him is something you clearly don't want to do, and at this point it seems pretty clear he's not going to be able to provide what you want here either sexually or through an open relationship. but there's nothing selfish about wanting a satisfying sex life. it's just frustrating and shitty because life is shitty.

So don't break up with him.

But you still need to let him know that you have needs that aren't being met, and regardless of what you feel or what the circumstances are, you do have a right to have those needs met in a relationship.

I'm not saying cheat, but I am saying stand up for yourself before it gets to the point where you stop being able to sit around idly and do start cheating. Or you decide to break up with him because you can't take it anymore. Because... really, if it's that bad you aren't going to be able to do this forever. Believe me.

Insecure AND selfish? Sounds like a prize. Look, I'm not telling you to dump this guy, but you're stuck with a person who doesn't care if you're sexually satisfied. He's got no call to be all insecure and jealous about the possibility of other people fucking you when he's clearly not interested in doing it himself. HE'S a disgusting human being, if you ask me.

I have a similar problem, nonny. My partner and I are generally compatible in life, but he's always had a lower sex drive than me and it's only gotten worse with the years. And the sad thing is...when we do it's just...boring, and unimaginative.

And yes I've brought this up, but you can only do that so much before it's basically whining.

Ayrt

Yep. I love him and we are best friends, but I want to be best friends with benefits too and my benefits package sucks. I think I'm a lot of work because I'm really subby, but one of those whiny, demanding subs, but I don't want everything. I just want a little. I'm into objectification so if he wants to just stick his fingers out while I fuck them like he doesn't matter (or, like I don't matter, however my mind wants to play it), that'll do me.

It's funny, because I'm actually coming at it from the other end, and I used to be a Domme... but honestly I knew he wasn't kinky rigt off the bat, which is fine, I made that choice. But I was at least hoping for frequent, enthusiastic sex.

It's not whining. There's a problem in your relationship and your partner is refusing to address it. That's like having a house with a hole in the roof and dealing with the rain coming through and making all your stuff a soggy, moldy mess, but your partner refuses to talk about fixing it. Pointing out the problem and how much trouble it's causing isn't whining.

Break up with his loser ass.

maybe consider a couples therapist?

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