[ SECRET POST #3389 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3389 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

So you know do what you're gonna do, if that's BDSM then all the more power to you as long as everything's consensual.

But why, WHY, would you do things that cause bruises in places you can't cover up if you know it's gonna make people at your work ask questions? It's really not that hard to do play that only bruises places you can cover with clothing. And if you don't feel like doing that, then don't BITCH about getting asked questions by people at work when you know you're going to!

Like I don't give a shit about how alternative lifestyles should be accepted and all that. How is anyone supposed to know, just from looking, that you're all beat up because you WANT to be and not because something sketchy's going on in your personal life? Also, how the fuck is it appropriate to be like, "well it's my sex life you guys" at work? There's a time and a place for things.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd think it'd help alternative lifestyles get accepted more if the person could reply with a smile and say they had a really fun time last weekend or something. If you start off with the notion that you must defend yourself, you're setting it up as something worth being defensive about.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, imo its not really appropriate to talk about your sex life at work, no matter how kinky or vanilla it may be

but unless your bruises are handshaped or something it shouldn't be hard to think of a lie

[(Anonymous)]

Sure, but it beats getting offended someone asked about it. Not being defensive normalizes it.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't be nosy if you don't want the truth.

[(Anonymous)]

don't show off sex bruises in work situations

[(Anonymous)]

If you want to just be able to say anything at any time, you don't belong in a professional environment.

[kallanda_lee]

Devil's advocate: you can't always predict where you're going to bruise. And things like handcuffs tend to be well, in a visible place.

Also, I dunno, unless they downright have a black eye, it IS sort of rude to ask? I mean I come at this from a different angle, having self-harmed, but I basically still get people being nosy busybodies 15 years down the line. And I feel a lot of it is sort of concern-trolling.

Personally I'd just say I do sports in this case, though.

[(Anonymous)]

The reason they get asked questions is because they work with small children.

[(Anonymous)]

that does make things messier doesn't it

[kallanda_lee]

Alright, I can see how that is an unfortunate situation.

[(Anonymous)]

If that's the case, they're doubly idiots for not being more careful. EVen if you bruise unexpectedly, hello, make up and concealing clothes/accessories. People have gotten fired for more trivial crap than being into BDSM. It's not fair, but you can't pay your rent with cries of how unjust the world is.

[(Anonymous)]

Small children should be easier to lie to. They don't know what BDSM is (or if they do, that's their parents' fault). "I was doing some very complex stretches :)" ought to work.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not so much the small kids themselves that are a concern, it's how likely they are to blab it to their parents, and how a person who works with kids (in say, a teaching or daycare capacity) is far more likely to come into regular contact with parents who might freak out.