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⌈ Secret Post #3404 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

12. http://i.imgur.com/ZOX9KMu.jpg

[sparrow_lately]

Here's what I'll say, anon: IMO I'm on the distinctly ugly side of average. I really can't imagine anyone being like "damn look at that girl!" sincerely, and for *years* I basically told myself I couldn't *have* standards, b/c I was so ugly, what did I think I was doing? I let a decent number of people treat me pretty shittily exactly for that reason.

And then! I met my fiancé, and all of a sudden there was this person in my life who in addition to being very wonderful in a lot of ways seemed to genuinely think I wasn't ugly! And it was like, shit, this ADORABLE mofo thinks *I'm* cute?! Pls never get your eyes checked, my friend, cuz this is cool.

And you know what? That shit happens every day! Literally hundreds of times a day, some person who thinks they're nothing special or even straight up ugly walks into a room, and somebody else says "oh my god, look a them!" and goes all heart eyes in their soul and underwear alike.

My point is, you're fine. :•)

[(Anonymous)]

Awww. What a sweet thing to say.

[(Anonymous)]

not op but that makes me feel a lot better. :)

[(Anonymous)]

that is a ridiculously cute comment, bless you

[sparrow_lately]

<3

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

this icon and comment are perfect. As is your original comment, sparrow, you're the best :)

[(Anonymous)]

goes all heart eyes in their soul and underwear alike.

:)

[(Anonymous)]

This post is awesome and you should feel awesome :)>

[sarillia]

Yup, personal taste is bigger than people realize. I've got a friend who confessed to another friend that he thinks I'm incredibly pretty and hoped I hadn't noticed him staring (I hadn't because I'm completely oblivious to this sort of thing), while the friend who was confessed to so obviously doesn't see what he sees that I might be insulted if I was more sensitive about how I look. Mostly I just think the difference in their opinions is interesting and kind of funny.

[sparrow_lately]

I was just talking to someone about how, okay, so apparently, when my FIL met my MIL, he'd just sworn off dating for a while, and then met her and hoo boy.

Now, my MIL is a perfectly nice looking lady, but she is not Christie Brinkley. She is not an Olympic gymnast. She is a very average, lovely midwestern-looking lady. But somehow, when my FIL met her, he was like THIS CHANGES EVERYTHING.

Same for my parents. My dad, at the time still married to someone else, and my mom, living with someone, met and within an hour were determined to date. It just happens. It's wonderful and wild and amazing.

[iceyred]

Your post is the best post.

[sparrow_lately]

:D

[elaminator]

This is a good comment, and I agree. It can be hard to understand what someone else could see in you, but that doesn't make it impossible! Lots of people go through this.

[(Anonymous)]

that's a lovely post, and I'm very happy for you, but with respect, at a certain point, it starts to become less and less likely that I'm ever going to walk into a room and have that happen, and starts to look more and more like I'm outside of that class of person

[(Anonymous)]

With respect also, that isn't the entire issue. The "sudden moment you know it's THE ONE when you just met" is in practice rarer than hens' teeth. But you could well meet someone who, after a while, you realise is just right for you and you for them.

/pretty much pig ugly here and happened to me. He's no oil painting either, but we fit just fine.

NAYRT

[(Anonymous)]

But I don't want to be considered "pig ugly", nor am I attracted to anyone else that may be "pig ugly" too.

[(Anonymous)]

I had a similar worry when I was younger. I had these rather specific ideals in my head and I didn't have any reason to let go of them. But as time when on, I started finding myself feeling attraction to guys I wouldn't have pegged as my type (or what I thought my type was). I'm currently single, but I discovered I wasn't really in danger of rejecting someone perfectly fine because he wasn't "perfect like [character]" and that gives me confidence. It wasn't an issue of lowering standards, but rather discovering that my tastes were broader than I had imagined.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm similar. I had a very specific type when I was younger. The older I get, the broader my spectrum of hot guys has become. Some guys, like Adam Driver for a celebrity, would definitely have been a no-go when I was younger but now I really like them. I think it's not uncommon for tastes to change or broaden with age.

And you can't underestimate personality. I worked with the hottest guy but he was such an asshole that I ended up not even noticing he was hot because I couldn't get past his personality. And, I know absolute sweethearts who make my heart melt. Not the cutest but their personalities definitely make them look better in my eyes, if you take my meaning.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say it's better to err on the side of high standards than low standards. Better to be alone than with someone you don't even like or doesn't treat you well.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

I've been single for a while and see a few of my female friends dating men who are below them ie; absolute pigs who treat them terribly, because they feel they have to "be with someone", even if they're not that into them.

Absolutely, it's better to be single than feeling trapped in a relationship that isn't working.

I'm willing to bet, OP that you aren't as unattractive as you think. Society constantly tries to tell women that they have to try and obtain an unrealistic level of beauty. I say unrealistic because a lot of the 'beauty' you see on screen and in magazines, is achieved by lighting, hair, makeup and photoshop. Also, celebrities can afford to spend money on things like trainers and sometimes plastic surgery, to keep up with the 'beauty' that is required of them. It's pretty sad, actually.

I don't see any reason why a man you find 'pretty' wouldn't feel the same way about you.

[lb_lee]

You know, I was going to go on this long thing about how my husband is classically gorgeous, and my boyfriend looks like a two-bit thug from an Adam Warren comic, and I find them both smoking hot, but I realize there's actually no way to convince anyone that they too are attractive to someone.

So instead, let me come at the opposite direction: in my entire life, I have encountered THREE people I was willing to get involved with. Three. My slice of the people-I-am-willing-to-bang pie is so thin, you could fucking see your hand through it. If you include fantasy-only, the number goes up to... five. Maybe. I'm being EXTREMELY lenient here, because I don't actually FANTASIZE much either.

See, I am disabled and being romantically or sexually involved is THE single most painful, difficult thing for me. It's like sieging Rome with a plastic spoon. Sure, I can attempt it... but it takes someone really special to motivate me.

So I think it is safe to presume, OP, that my requirements in a partner are even steeper than yours.

And you know what? THAT'S A GOOD THING.

This way, I don't waste anyone's time... especially mine. When I DO end up making a move, I am damn certain that this is what I want to try. I know the things I value in the guys I want, and while I flail and fail through a great deal, at least I never end up in a situation where I'm not sure if I actually want to be with someone.

So honestly? I say rock on with your bad self. BE picky! You can always lower your standards or change them later, if it really isn't working out for you. If fandom DOES influence your standards, you can systematically change them with the media you consume. I'd say that's actually a pretty cool thing to know about yourself!