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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-04-29 06:31 pm

[ SECRET POST #3404 ]


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(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:43 pm (UTC)(link)
Nobody is entitled to a romantic relationship, or romantic feelings being returned is what I'd say.

But parental love is a requirement for healthy development. To suggest that an expectation of a parent's love is an entitlement is, forgive me but, retarded. A child literally needs love to develop into healthy adult. That's like saying the expectation of food is entitlement.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:45 pm (UTC)(link)
Not necessarily. Adopted children turn out fine often without their biological parents' love.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:46 pm (UTC)(link)
But they have parental units that love them.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Sure. The question is a little murky on that, I should have clarified, my bad. What I meant was "are children entitled to the love of their biological parents".

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
okay but why draw that line at all?

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:52 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, the specific example I had in mind was the scenario of a mother who doesn't love her child since one of my coworkers confessed to me that she's afraid she won't love her baby once it's born and she doesn't particularly love it now.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:58 pm (UTC)(link)
Oh, okay, I'm the anon who asked you a question downthread, and I'm sorry for the personal part of my question because I kinda assumed you were a new mom feeling like shit. Hormones kick in pretty hard in new moms (and their babies). New dads, too. Humans are wired to fall hard for their offspring, but carrying them around for nine months before you see 'em probably makes pregnant women doubt that sometimes.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-30 12:01 am (UTC)(link)
She goes on new mom forums a lot and she was showing me thread after thread of mothers confessing they don't really love their children but are doing their best to pretend like they do for the child's sake and was telling me how it's more prevalent than we think.

The fear that they won't love them is more prevalent, but most of them do end up loving the kids so that's not so bad. There's still the fear, sadly.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:59 pm (UTC)(link)
well to that scenario in particular: I think there is an expectation and pressure that mothers will love their children the instant they give birth and even before: which I don't think is always true. I think love is always a relationship. That is why people will encourage parents bond with their babies.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-30 12:06 am (UTC)(link)
I didn't know what to say to her besides giving it a try - since she is determined to have the child for her family - before deciding she doesn't love the baby, the baby isn't even born yet.

If she were a single mother who was deliberating keeping the baby or not, who didn't have a husband who loves children and soon-to-be grandparents and grandparents-in-law that love children too, I don't know what I would have said.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:46 pm (UTC)(link)
Adopted parents are still parents. ayrt never said biological, just parental

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:47 pm (UTC)(link)
I meant a parent's love. Adoptive, biological, doesn't matter. But kids need a loving parent to develop properly.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:48 pm (UTC)(link)
I would disagree with that on a technicality, they need a loving guardian figure. I clarified I meant biological parents in a comment above, the unclearness was my fault, I apologize.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:50 pm (UTC)(link)
This is an idiotic statement.

(Anonymous) 2016-04-29 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
I've clarified several things above, would you like me to explain further? If so, what?