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1. Yeah actually I do.

2. Not according to this thread! We're all supposed to be compassionate and welcoming to abusive shitfucks because "they have BPD, they can't help i!"

1. I mean, I can't stop you. But you shouldnt

2. I don't personally believe that.

look, my best friend from childhood has BPD; she's a rock and i love her. i've also been mistreated and abused by folks with BPD. i kept the first; i ditched the latter. your prerogative amigo

~drunk sparrow

you are confusing compassion with being an enabling doormat

seriously, calm your tits

We're all supposed to be compassionate and welcoming to abusive shitfucks because "they have BPD, they can't help i!"

Literally no one has said that. Everyone has said that you can and should remove yourself from toxic relationships.

I'm really, really sorry that someone with BPD hurt you. But people with BPD are still people.

But people with BPD are still people.

Then maybe they should start acting like it.

I agree. I don't think we should call them monsters until they do, though.

I don't think alcoholics are monsters, for instance.

I judge the shit out of anyone who can't sympathise with someone who can't control how they think, feel, or act.

Exhibit A of someone saying exactly that.

"Sympathize with" is not the same as "be compassionate and welcoming to even if they're literally abusing you"

Like, they're not even very close in meaning

Nothing about sympathizing with someone conflicts with separating them from your life because they're toxic to you

When you've lost, move the goalposts!

What on earth are you talking about? I said that no one had said you have to keep someone abusive in your life if they have BPD, and no one has said that.

"No one said the moon is made of cheese." "Ah, but this person over here said that human beings have landed on the moon!"

Seriously, what are you talking about?

I said "the people in this thread are saying we have to be compassionate and welcoming toward abusive people."

You said nobody has said that.

I quoted someone who said pretty much exactly that sentiment.

You say they didn't due to semantics. That is "moving the goalposts."

No. You are wrong. Because those are two totally different sentiments. Which was my whole point.

Again, to be completely clear:

"Sympathize with people with BPD" and "Be compassionate and welcoming toward abusive people" are not the same sentiment. They MEAN DIFFERENT THINGS. If it's semantics to point out that they mean substantially different things, then call this semantics, but it seems relevant to point out.

Except it isn't. The sentiment expressed is the exact same one. You're only harping on the semantics because that's all you have left. Once you start arguing about word choice over substance, you've lost. Good night.

Please stop being ridiculous.

If I say that "I killed someone" and "I hugged someone", the only difference between those two sentences is a single word choice, but the meaning is entirely different.

Similarly, in this case, the meaning is different. To sympathize with someone is to understand their emotions and perspective and care for them. To be welcoming towards someone is to let them do certain things and enable them. Again: you can sympathize with someone and still completely cut them out of your life.

I can;t stop being ridiculous because I'm not the one being ridiculous.

You lost. Good night.

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