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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-04-29 06:31 pm

[ SECRET POST #3404 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3404 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Re: Question for OP

(Anonymous) 2016-04-30 03:40 am (UTC)(link)
hi i'm not OP and I'm not like saying that parents should totally have kids they don't love or anything like that but this jumped out at me

On the other hand, I don't know why anyone would have kids if they suspected they couldn't love them.

and a few scenarios came to mind such as:

Because they live in a society where having children is expected and it never occurs to them that they shouldn't have children.

Because they live in a place where birth control is not readily accessible.

Because they did not consent.

like I'm not trying to make excuses for bad parents or say that anyone who doesn't love their children is a victim but these are real scenarios

Re: Question for OP

(Anonymous) 2016-04-30 04:50 am (UTC)(link)
Eh, I should've specified that I don't know why anyone who had a choice not to would have kids they didn't think they could love. I don't think hubby wanting kids and parents wanting grandbabies is as dire as someone being raped, denied access to birth control, or even just someone subject to intense social stigma for not having kids. Like, yeah, it sucks that her husband and parents want her to have a baby, but I doubt her entire community would ostracize her if she didn't.

Re: Question for OP

(Anonymous) 2016-04-30 04:16 pm (UTC)(link)
Some Christianity sects still consider abortion a sin, and the having of children an essential part of being married at all. I don't think you're giving the societal pressure thing as much weight as it deserves. I know my cousin's getting shit from all sides because she and her husband have been married for four years now without having a child, and she's in her late 30s - it's not as bad as I've outlined above, but if she does accidentally get pregnant that's pretty much it, whether she actually wants the child or not.