[ SECRET POST #3411 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3411 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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11. [SPOILERS for Homestuck]




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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I managed to find some positive older male role models in high school that I'm lucky enough to still be in contact with, but admittedly with both cases I at least briefly had "crush-like" feelings for both of them. I'm pretty sure it came from also realizing they had traits I'd like to have in a male significant other (it might have been an attempt to overcompensate for the fact my actual dad was a bit emotionally abusive and to avoid ending up with a man like him) which in one case led to me being extremely uncomfortable because the combination of (at least subconsciously) seeing someone as a paternal figure and a romantic partner felt kind of incest-y to me and really fucked me up for while (I got over it eventually however)

More recently I ran into an awkward situation with a male peer (who is literally only one year older than me, but looks/acts a bit older) who is a very pleasant person and I'd definitely consider someone who gives off "Dad-vibes" without being the father of any children. I viewed him as a mentor and worried that I had a crush on him for a while (before I realized: no hun, you've looked him straight in the eyes and thought "no I am not attracted to you at all," you're fine)

When I get around to getting psychiatric help (I have a few issues that are unrelated to this as well) it's something I definitely want to work on

[(Anonymous)]

I have a good dad but having an older mentor figure definitely inspired crush-like feelings in me. A little confusing, but worth it to have that guy in my life as an encouraging (if curmudgeonly!) role model.

I think it's so important to a young woman to feel encouraged, valued, and to have positive models. It doesn't go away when you turn 18. It can definitely get confused with other feelings, though.

I'm pulling for you to work everything out! Good for you for figuring out so much already. :)