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⌈ Secret Post #3414 ⌋

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Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Since it's Monday, what are your work-related confessions/secrets? School-related if you're a student.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a secretary, and I haven't filed any hard-copy paperwork since 2011. It's all in a stack in a drawer. No one ever asks for it.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

You are my nightmare. What if you leave the company? Someone will have to deal with that shit.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

They ought to have fired you 5 minutes ago and hired me in your place.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

I'm honestly just waiting to quit, I just want to get my dentist and sleep lab appointments before I do.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[sparrow_lately]

Honestly that's fair

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I worked for four years and then went back to grad school and I MISS WORK SO MUCH. I think part of it is being around so many people who are very young and didn't take time off. I know I'm lucky to have a time where I don't have to work and get vacations, but man. I miss it.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

You're like my opposite. If I could, Id go back to college. Being with younger people makes me feel like I can finally breathe again.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Haha I worked for three years after my undergrad, and missed student life desperately. I hated how repetitive my life was and yearned for ~creative, academic pursuits~. Then I went to grad school and missed having money/feeling like I could support myself.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I work at a mental health agency, and with a large number of clients. I'm also secretly bulimic. I throw up in the toilets semi-regularly and if anyone else notices anything in the toilet that didn't flush completely, I let them come to their own conclusions about who did it.

[sparrow_lately]

<3

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

Just...take care.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think there's a job in existence I could bring myself to really, truly give a shit about.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

There are for me, Im just unlikely to get them.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I work at a school and I'm the only bilingual person there. I sometimes like having to translate because it gets me out of the classroom (I like the kids, but they drive me bonkers sometimes), but other times I wonder if I should ask when they're gonna hire an actual translator or if they're gonna pay me more when I translate IEPs.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I'd bring that up at your next review. I mean, I guess if you rationalize that you aren't doing EXTRA work (assuming your workload doesn't build up while you're out doing translation stuff) but even so, you are more capable than your co-workers and providing a service no one else can offer, I'd ask for compensation.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[sparrow_lately]

Oh, my god, I'd go crazy I'm so sorry

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

I'm still trying to figure out how to cash in on being multilingual, I'll let ou know when I do. *sigh*

Re: Work-related Confessions

[sparrow_lately]

I don't get paid and there's at least a couple paras who DO get paid and don't appear to do anything at all and I'm in no position to bitch and will be gone very soon but when the child you're supposed to be one-on-one in charge of is grinding the entire class to a halt you can do something other than stand there.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[kallanda_lee]

Why don't you get paid?

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I think if we fired half of hour staff and just let myself and a handful of others do things properly, we'd be better off.

I really don't know how so many of them still have jobs when there have been multiple conversations with them about 'performance issues'. :|

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Pull up a seat, my dudes, I have a list.

I work 40 hours a week at a job that has maaaaaybe 2 hours of actual work each week. I make little projects for myself to fill the time, but only spend about, oh, 5 hours a week on them. The rest of the time, I surf the internet.

My supervisor is the most micromanaging, inflexibly-thinking, condescending person I've ever worked for. I can't stand her, but since we have to share a tiny office, I do my best to be polite and pleasant with her. This is surprisingly exhausting, and so even though my job is embarrassingly easy, I come home from work each night so tired I don't feel like doing anything but vegging out on the couch until it's time for bed.

Last summer, we got a new hire in another department, and I've befriended him and we've spent a lot of time together, always eat lunch together, etc. (He also has a shitty supervisor, and we have similar taste in books and movies, so we've bonded over that.) But lately, he complains and complains so much about his job, and he never listens to any of the advice he asks me for, and I want to dial back the amount of time I spend with him but can't see a way of doing it that won't hurt his feelings and burn a bridge between us.

I've realized that I play the same role at work that I did in my dysfunctional family growing up -- I'm the Peacemaker, the Ambassador, the Soother. People come to my office to vent all the time. I'm often in the awkward position of having Person A drop in to talk shit about Person B, and then later Person B comes by to bitch about Person A, while I just listen and commiserate with both, because both A and B are annoying in their own ways. I don't know how to change that without alienating everyone, though.

I mean, how do you say, "Hey, guess what? I want all of y'all to leave me out of your gossip chain, stop coming to me for sympathy, stop using me as a comfort blanket, (to my supervisor) stop spending 30 minutes giving me instructions in the most infantilizing way possible when one sentence will do...[etc.]?

Also, I hate finding myself in friendship dynamics where people talk to me all about themselves, but never ask me any questions about myself, cut me off when I speak for more than 2 sentences at a time, cut me off while I'm giving them the sympathy they're looking for, and just basically treating me like a sounding board.

Like, that coworker I mentioned above will come into my office unannounced and start bitching about the latest thing his supervisor has done, and when I say, "Wow, that's awful, she can't even admit that she doesn't know how to make widgets the right way?" [or whatever], he'll actually cut me off by saying, "Yeah yeah yeah, ok, moving on!" WTF!

This weekend I actually practiced saying, "Don't cut me off like that! Next time you feel like venting at my face without wanting my response, just call my phone and leave a voicemail. I won't listen to it, you'll get everything off your chest, and I won't have my work interrupted for nothing. Now excuse me while I get back to work."

Re: Work-related Confessions

[replicantangel]

Ugh, that's awful, I'm sorry. Are you looking for new work? Maybe you need a change of scenery. All that drama can't be good for you, especially combined with the boredom.

And I get you - I'm the poster child for not wanting to ever burn bridges - but maybe you can practice something something firm but non-confrontational. Like, "Hey, hold on. I know that this situation is really crappy, but I think we're just making ourselves even more miserable by harping on it. Let's do five minutes of complaining each and then move on to happier topics. We can't let them win by making us unhappy *all the time*." Or even a simpler, "You know what? I've decided to stop obsessing about them. Let's talk about Another Subject instead." I know it's way easier said/typed than done. :( Good luck.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Well, firstly...

"But lately, he complains and complains so much about his job, and he never listens to any of the advice he asks me for..."

Is he really asking you explicitly for your advice, or is he looking for someone to vent to? Do yourself a favor and limit your responses to brief, "That sounds tough" and "Sorry to hear that". Or throw in a "What do you think you'll do about it?" If he presses you for advice, decline to give any.

The response you're practicing is good in spirit, but honestly, it's too long. If your problem is that your co-worker interrupts you, chances are they're not going to listen to a long explanation like that. Again, keep it short. "Sorry to hear that [name], but I'm busy and can't talk right now." Then put your head and down and work and ignore the co-worker.

It's only natural for you to want to fight back after you've been imposed upon, but you've been peoples' agony aunt for a long time. Take it in baby steps! Step one is depriving them of the bottomless well of sympathy you provide. That's why you keep your responses short. That's also why YOU cut THEM off. You have a ready made excuse: you're both supposed to be working, and you don't have time for this. Practice your "Sorry, can't talk now!" and your acting skills on faking being busy.

Re: Work-related Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I started a new job a week ago. I like the work and the people are nice in general but I feel so lonely.

My boss is always traveling and we share the space with one of his associates but she's not often around. She has an employee in the space as well but whenever I try to engage her, she's basically monosyllabic and doesn't seem to want to socialize.

I also find it takes so long to get anything done and I feel like I'm being a pest with the management/administrators but I have things I need to get done that I've asked them multiple times to do and I'm getting a little frustrated.