[ SECRET POST #3415 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3415 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

[(Anonymous)]

OP's frustrated and the situation is negatively impacting their relationship with their mother. Minimizing it by telling them it's not that bad is not very helpful.

Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not minimizing anything, I just think 1) op was angry when she wrote that 2) we don't know the whole situation and as op said it, it sounds like something exasperating and no a extremely serious situation.

OP probably does need to set boundaries and the sooner the better, before the relationship with their mother gets worse.
But that doesn't mean her mother is awful for worrying or that the stuff they said while arguing equals to being emotionally abusive.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

OP

Thank you. Your comment (at least it seems like you're the same commenter from above) was actually the most helpful one here because it was exactly what I needed to hear. You're 100% right that I was angry when I wrote the original post, and that it's exasperating but not extremely serious. I was mostly just venting, so I was a little surprised when all these people were all "OMG she's abusive!"

I absolutely need to have a talk with her once my dad is recovered but right now she's so stressed out from taking care of him (it's been entirely on her; the original plan was for me to help, but I unfortunately got sick the day after his surgery so I haven't been able to help for fear of getting him sick, too, especially with a compromised immune system) that I'm not going to get into it with her for the time being.

I don't like her worrying, but while it's annoying, I know her heart's in the right place and she's by no means abusive. In response to an above comment (that I think might've been from you?) I don't live in an unsafe area and haven't given her any reason to worry, that's just the type of person she is. Honestly, she'd probably ask her friends to call and let her know they're safe, too, if she could get away with it (and I know in the past she and her best friend have called to make sure the other is safe when my dad/her friend's husband were out of town and they were alone).

Anyway, we're definitely going to have a discussion about it in the future once things have calmed down in her life but it's not really THAT big of a deal to deal with it for now, I was just annoyed and needed to rant (I was already having a bad day and that was kind of the last straw). Again, thank you for putting things in perspective for me.

Re: Does anyone else have a mother this overprotective/crazy?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not minimizing anything

You literally said this:

it doesn't sound that bad

I can understand not wanting to jump on the "she's abusive!" bandwagon because these things do have layers and not all dysfunction is abuse. No one said the mother is awful for worrying. It's her right to worry. It's how she reacts to the worry that is potentially abusive.