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[Selena Gomez/Orlando Bloom]

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[Fullmetal Alchemist]

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[The Great British Bake Off]

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Um, how old were you when you were taking care of your brother? If you were also a kid, it's pretty normal to get annoyed with your siblings, even feeling aggressive towards them. Siblings fight all the time. If you were an adult, and you genuinely felt like you wanted to hurt a baby/little kid...that's a problem. It's one thing to get annoyed when a kid throws a fit, it's another to actually feel moved towards violence. Idk someone losing their shit at a child is never ok, no matter how much the child was misbehaving.

Also, like, if you wanna talk annoying, you think animals are never annoying? Really? It never ever justifies abuse, but it's not like kids are monsters and animals are perfect paragons of good behavior.

I was 14. I didn't want to hurt him. I just couldn't stand him crying anymore and needed him to just SHUT UP. And he wouldn't no matter what I did/tried. So I left him and hid in the bathroom and cried until my mother got home.

So...yeah. I can totally understand losing your shit at a kid way more than an animal.

It's not that animals are never annoying - it's that it's not hours of helpless frustration and inability to fucking escape the way it is for a kid. If you have a kid, there's literally no escape. I had my mom who came home to take care of him but plenty of people don't have anyone. On top of work one (or maybe multiple) full time jobs and all the other responsibilities they might have.

What you did makes sense. You were also a child, feeling overwhelmed. Maybe it wasn't the most responsible thing, but you did what you needed to, and you were never moved towards violence. I'm not sure how you can take that experience from your childhood and apply it to adults, who have better emotional control. I have felt annoyed at kids I've babysat before. I could never comprehend wanting to hurt them. Idk, I'm not sure if I'm making sense, but it just sets me on edge how you're saying you could understand someone hurting a kid just because they're annoying, even if the annoyance is endless. There are a million other ways to deal with a crying kid.

Adults might have better emotional control, but if you're working two jobs and have to come home and do chores and have a shrieking kid, day after day, I completely understand how it could wear on you, even if you were the strongest most emotionally mature of people.

It's not about wanting to hurt the kids - it's about wanting to make them STOP.

For animals, you can put them in a crate and go out and get some air. Kids? You're shit out of luck.

So I could understand someone at the end of their rope breaking down and screaming at a kid to SHUT THE FUCK UP or grabbing and dragging the kid and shutting them in their rooms or spanking them.

I mean, you could put the kid in a crate and go out and get some air the same way you would an animal, but that would be child abuse too so...

You can put babies in a crib, sometimes they just have to cry themselves to sleep. And sending a kid to their room is not child abuse? That's a pretty typical punishment. The kid will tired themself out eventually. Sometimes it's a matter of figuring out what's upsetting the kid, sometimes it's just a matter of waiting it out until they get tired. Miraculously, people all over the world manage to be single parents, working multiple jobs, and still don't abuse their kids!

And sometimes that doesn't fucking work. Sometimes, kids will cry for hours and hours and hours and bang on walls and scream.

You know that sleep deprivation is a form of torture, right?

And if you have to work two jobs, take care of a kid, do all the chores, and you can't even fucking sleep on top of that, yeah, I can well imagine how you begin to feel like a fucking hostage.

And none of that justifies abuse.

Who said it justifies abuse?

I said I can understand why people do it more than animal abuse, not that it makes it right.

If a woman walks in on her husband cheating on her and slaps him, that's still domestic violence even if I can understand why she does it.

I guess to me, even with all that, it doesn't make it more "understandable" than animal abuse. But sorry, I'm a lil too tired too keep debating this, and I feel like we're sort of talking about different things here. You have a nice night!

Agreed. You can't just walk off and leave a crying baby until it stops the same way you can a cat or a dog. And sometimes babies WILL cry for hours and you can't figure out why or get them to stop, and if you're a young parent with no experience with kids, I can see it being extremely stressful and upsetting. It doesn't JUSTIFY abuse, but it certainly makes it understandable how someone could finally just hit the breaking point.

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I completely agree with this comment.

One of the reasons I will probably never have kids is because I'm in a situation where I'd probably have to be a single parent, and I honestly wouldn't trust myself to handle it. I'm not a very patient person, and I can be kind of uptight, and I absolutely need a lot of alone time and quiet time to myself, so having to look after a young kid 24/7 would make me insane. I don't think I could ever be truly abusive to a child, but I'm pretty sure I could reach a point where I was being a harsh, neglectful, resentful parent - which is basically an emotional kind of abuse in its own right.

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