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⌈ Secret Post #3430 ⌋

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[A Game of Thrones, Brienne of Tarth/Tormund Giantsbane]

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[Lupita Nyong'o]

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[Tolkien/Lord of the Rings]

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[Doctor Thorne miniseries, based on the book by Anthony Trollope]

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[Top Row (L-R): Orihara Izaya (Durarara!!), Akashi Seijuurou (Kuroko no Basuke), Levi (Shingeki no Kyojin), Free Cell (Phi Brain), Choromatsu (Osomatsu-san)
Bottom Row (L-R): Satomi Riou (Hakkenden), Kusatsu Kinshirou (Boueibu), Souma Hiroomi (Working!!), Takeda Ittetsu (Haikyuu!!), Natsume Takashi (Natsume Yuujinchou)]

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[Star Trek: Deep Space Nine]

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[The Night Manager]

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I just saw on FB that one of my younger cousins (high school aged) has a girlfriend. Good for him, he seems like a nice kid, but...I'm 31 and I've never had a boyfriend and I've never been kissed, compared to most of my peers who are popping out babies left and right. Now, a big part of that is that it just doesn't seem to be a priority for me. I can't seem to make myself care all that much. But sometimes little things like this make me shake my head at myself like, 'damn, that's a bit sad'.

It's come to the point where I don't think I necessarily want a relationship for its own sake, but more so I know what it's like and have 'gotten it over with' so to speak. And that's also kind of sad.

(FWIW, I don't think I'm aromantic or asexual, just wary of all the hassle relationships seem to include.)

32, shortly to be 33, and ditto on the no boyfriend, no kisses, not asexual or aromantic, not sure it's worth the bother, still vaguely unsettled by it. Like, I'm lonely and sad a lot, but I don't think a boyfriend or relationship would be a cure-all on that front.

ayrt

Yeah, I totally get that. I want some more companionship too, but not really romantic. I mean, it would be fine if that was included, but what I really want are more friends I have things in common with, who have time to hang out, etc.

I know it, anon, right down to also being 31. And like you, a lot of it is that I just don't seem to be looking. (Though the guys I have considered haven't panned out, but when I consider one guy every two years, what do I expect?!)

ayrt

Same here. Occasionally there'll be a guy that makes me wonder, but then I find out something that turns me off him or the whole thing just fizzles out, or...People tell me I need to lower my standards, but why?! That doesn't really seem to work out for anyone else.

And just randomly (online) dating people is not worth all the effort. I rarely truly like someone when I first meet them, so how many dates would I have to go on before I'd know?

Not a big deal, anon. Having a relationship because you think you should be in a relationship is about the least satisfying and most annoying endeavour you can put yourself through, to be honest. And it usually winds up not working out well in the long (or short) run.

The best time to actually go for it is when you meet someone who makes you want to go for it. If that hasn't happened yet, eh, so what? Don't sell yourself short just because everyone else around you is doing a thing.

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