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Does anyone else worry about faving / otherwise responding to someone's posts on social media too much to the point where it becomes weird?

How do you navigate that dynamic?

I get anxious about this too, but I think unless you're, like, militant about it--replying to EVERY SINGLE THING somebody posts immediately, or going through their shit replying to everything, etc--I don't think it's anything too weird. Do you know this person personally? Are they a mutual friend? Fandom person? Famous or famous-ish person?

Twitter mutual / internet friendo, in this specific case. Although it's definitely the kind of thing I worry about just in general.

Again, I think unless it trips over into a "stalker"-y vibe--like I said, if you like everything the MOMENT they post it, or go through regularly and summarily reply to everything they do--it shouldn't be a problem at all :•)

That's reassuring, thanks!

I think as long as you aren't coming off as stalkerish (asking the person in question about things that aren't related to what they're discussing, trying to hunt down other accounts that they haven't openly shared, etc), then you're good. If someone posts on social media they probably want others to notice it!

I wouldn't, say...come back to the same post and comment again and again once they've clearly moved on, but I see nothing wrong with 'following' them; that's why you add people on social media.

Thanks for the advice! It's a very reasonable way to do it, it's just hard to keep in mind sometimes, you know?

That's okay! At times I have a lot of anxiety about how I appear to others...I think most people do at some point, but it isn't worth letting it hold you back imo. As long as you aren't being inappropriate (which I doubt), I think you'll be fine.

YES.

Of course, I also worry that I overwhelm people when I comment. Basically I'm so used to LJ and DW that I leave paragraph long replies, and realize everyone else just "liked" or said "yep lol." It feels awkward, even though I've had some friends tell me they like that I actually post insightful comments.

Yeah, it's a tough dynamic to figure out, and it's not made easier by my natural anxiety, you know? So I guess the best solution is to just try not to worry about it.

I always get more excited when I see someone has left a long comment rather than a "+1" because they've added something substantive to the conversation. So keep on doing what you're doing!

+1

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No, but I don't really have what I would consider friendships or relationships with people online anymore. So if they think I'm weird, who cares?

Well, that's fair enough.

I just go whole hog and like everything and anything. If they put out there for the public, then it's there to be enjoyed, so why feel bad?

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