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a general thread for questions & advice

Does anyone else worry about faving / otherwise responding to someone's posts on social media too much to the point where it becomes weird?

How do you navigate that dynamic?

I get anxious about this too, but I think unless you're, like, militant about it--replying to EVERY SINGLE THING somebody posts immediately, or going through their shit replying to everything, etc--I don't think it's anything too weird. Do you know this person personally? Are they a mutual friend? Fandom person? Famous or famous-ish person?

Twitter mutual / internet friendo, in this specific case. Although it's definitely the kind of thing I worry about just in general.

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(Anonymous) - 2016-07-09 22:15 (UTC) - Expand

I think as long as you aren't coming off as stalkerish (asking the person in question about things that aren't related to what they're discussing, trying to hunt down other accounts that they haven't openly shared, etc), then you're good. If someone posts on social media they probably want others to notice it!

I wouldn't, say...come back to the same post and comment again and again once they've clearly moved on, but I see nothing wrong with 'following' them; that's why you add people on social media.

Thanks for the advice! It's a very reasonable way to do it, it's just hard to keep in mind sometimes, you know?

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elaminator - 2016-07-09 22:20 (UTC) - Expand

YES.

Of course, I also worry that I overwhelm people when I comment. Basically I'm so used to LJ and DW that I leave paragraph long replies, and realize everyone else just "liked" or said "yep lol." It feels awkward, even though I've had some friends tell me they like that I actually post insightful comments.

Yeah, it's a tough dynamic to figure out, and it's not made easier by my natural anxiety, you know? So I guess the best solution is to just try not to worry about it.

I always get more excited when I see someone has left a long comment rather than a "+1" because they've added something substantive to the conversation. So keep on doing what you're doing!

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(Anonymous) - 2016-07-10 19:18 (UTC) - Expand

No, but I don't really have what I would consider friendships or relationships with people online anymore. So if they think I'm weird, who cares?

Well, that's fair enough.

I just go whole hog and like everything and anything. If they put out there for the public, then it's there to be enjoyed, so why feel bad?

Why do people make bad movies. Why don't they make good movies instead.

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(Anonymous) - 2016-07-10 03:46 (UTC) - Expand

Their talent is exceeded by their ego.

Have you ever tried to make a good movie?

Do that. See how it goes.

How do you change the rear wiper blade on a 2006 Fiat Panda? It has some sort of weird non standard arrangement, and I cannot for the life of me work it out.

I hope this doesn't come of as flippant (maybe you have already tried this?) but in my experence if you go into an auto parts store and buy a new wiper blade(s) you can ask the store associates to help you install it. Not sure if you already have your new blade though.

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diet_poison - 2016-07-12 16:40 (UTC) - Expand

http://www.fiatforum.com/panda/172685-changing-rear-wiper-blade.html

I've got a ton of stress going on right now, and not only do I feel it, my BP and blood sugar show it. So, to try to help, I've made a list of things that stress me out, solutions and barriers.

But for things like messy house and health/weight, the obvious solution is to clean, cook, and exercise. But I've hit that point where I'm so stressed and I'm so tired that all I want to do is watch TV and play games. And where I'd normally be like "watch an episode, work 15 minutes, repeat" right now I just can't make myself do it.

How do I fix that?

I wish I could help you out anon, but that is exactly where I am right now. It sucks and I very much empathize. Good luck getting it figured out.

1. Take a deep breath. Take several if necessary.

2. Talk to someone. Get expert advice if you need to. Have someone help you to make a plan of action, because when you're overwhelmed and freaking out it can be just too difficult to consider options for how to tackle the problem that's creating the stress. Just knowing you have someone supporting you can be helpful in taking that weight off your shoulders a little.

3. Put your plan into action and try to focus on what needs to be done immediately rather than the larger, overwhelming picture. Break up your eventual goal into tiny steps and think about tackling those tiny steps one at a time (e.g. instead of needing to refinish an entire house, think of it as a series of smaller fixes with a certain thing that you should accomplish every day).

4. Keep breathing. You're going to be okay. You can handle this.

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herpymcderp - 2016-07-10 19:26 (UTC) - Expand

Why is moving so hard? Where is all this stuff coming from?

It was yoooouuuuu. It was you the whole time!

But seriously though, moving is the best time to get rid of all that unnecessary junk.

So I had this contact on kik we'd been friendly chatting for a while now but they started asking me things I didn't want to talk about and protesting why not insisting we were friends.

I finally bit the bullet and blocked them but I'm super nervous they'll find me again.

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