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Dear co-worker/friend:

I hesitate to use this exact term, but I think you're being a bad parent.

Your child is afraid of everything, thinks everything is going to lead to death (with extenuating reasons, his father is missing, presumed shot himself for just over a year now) and yet you won't insist he talks to his therapist. You take him once a month and let him sit there in silence.

Our other co-worker who had to take her child to a therapist (a neighbourhood child/friend of his drowned in their pool in the middle of the night) offered you the name of her therapist because her child has made extreme progress with this woman and you keep brushing it off saying it's fine.

It's not fine. He's scared of going to the movies because of shootings, he's scared of you being at work because you're out of his sight, he's scared when he hears wind at home because he thinks it's someone breaking in.

YOU ARE DOING YOUR CHILD A DISSERVICE. He has been like this for a YEAR NOW and he's not getting better. He cannot live in a constant state of fear and it's not okay. Please, help your child.

D:

This is so terrible. I really, really hope somebody gets through to her or she changes her mind.

+1000

Sometimes people need to help themselves before they can attend to others.

It's very probable that your coworker should be the one going to the therapist.

Agreed, and we've mentioned this to her too (as delicately as we can, because she has had a very tough couple of years--she lost her husband just after she found out he was cheating and was on the verge of divorcing him, and then her dad died too), but she just insists she's fine. :/

Only so much you can do to make someone take care of themselves, unfortunately.

On the other hand, I hate to suggest that child protective services might be the solution, but PTSD at a young age can affect someone psychologically for life. It might be worth some consideration if that kind of neglect is really taking place.

Jeez. Some parents. I knew someone who had the courts insist their kid get therapy and while they didn't tell their kid to keep quiet they did refuse to tell their kid what they were going to therapy for. The kid was just one of those naturally keep-it-to-themselves, pretend-things-are-okay kind, and just did not know they were supposed to talk to the therapist about what was bothering them. I felt like shouting at their mother to tell them it was okay to talk.

That's awful. :( Parenting is hard and some people just don't want to face up to the challenge, unfortunately.

This sounds like something you should say. Even if it's hard. I don't envy you. :( Poor kid. I hope he gets help soon.

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