[ SECRET POST #3522 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3522 ⌋

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[Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'd say it's because most fic writers aren't at the point in life where they have experienced the wonderful gift that is having an abusive asshole child or have someone they're emotionally close to suffer from having the wonderful gift that is an abusive asshole child. It might not even occur to a lot of them that this is a possible dynamic?

God, some people's kids are shitstains. The hardest thing is wrapping your head around why they put up with it. "But if I kick him out of the house it means I'm a bad mother/don't love him/he won't have the support he needs!" "BUT HE'S AN EMOTIONALLY MANIPULATIVE AND ABUSIVE DRUG DEALING ASSHOLE." But he's my son, blah blah blah. But you're his mother and he obviously doesn't respect that, blah blah blah.

[diet_poison]

That happens some the other way around, too.

Also, some of that is enabling on one side and leeching on the other, without the person being overtly assholish. Still not a good situation though.

[(Anonymous)]

And the second comment is a "but it's parents who are assholes really". Sadly predictable.

It's possible for something to be NOT PARENTS' FAULT. Gasp. Shock. Horror. F!S Blasphemy.

[(Anonymous)]

As I said above: Some people can't stop the enabling because they are afraid of the negative consequences (because no, stopping all support does not end well in a lot of cases) and they could not live with it if he child in question got even worse without the support.

[diet_poison]

Probably true. Every situation is a bit different.

[(Anonymous)]

My parents are in the exact situation that you described and believe you me, they would very much like to not enable my asshole brother but they want him to die in the streets even less. And the amount of well-meaning but clueless people rehashing some variation of "BUT YOU NEED TO THROW HIM INTO COLD WATER SO HE LEARNS HIS LESSON" clearly never were in a situation like that.