[ SECRET POST #3534 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3534 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Paget Brewster, Criminal Minds]


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03.
(Orange is the New Black)


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04.
[Lord of the Rings]


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[Misha Collins, Supernatural]


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(Breaking Bad)


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[Pokemon Fire Red/Leaf Green]
















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Comments

Re: Casual ableism

[sarillia]

What's been getting to me lately is people using "shut-in" as an insult. I've been there when my mental illnesses were at their worst and I don't need it rubbed in my face that people think I'm pathetic because of the worst period in my life. People who call out others for various -ist language have no problem saying this.

I know the defense. They're not talking about my case. They're alluding to the stereotype of the guy who lives in his mom's basement, etc, etc. It still feels like a slap in the face.

Re: Casual ableism

[(Anonymous)]

As a former "shut in" myself, I have some sympathy for what you're feeling, but that's not ableism.

Re: Casual ableism

[sarillia]

Okay. I've just been thinking about it and it seemed appropriate enough since it was this thread that reminded me again, what with an insult hitting me as collateral damage because of my mental illnesses.

Re: Casual ableism

[dani_phantasma]

I agree with this. Also , mocking people living with their parents.

In my case, my being a shut in & living with my parents was kind of enforced. I wanted desperately to learn things like driving and my parents just decided for me that I couldn't for a while. I had a mental breakdown and they decided again that I could never drive when they were considering letting me (and acted like it was my choice to break down). They would tell me to leave if I didn't like things and then come and find me acting like I snuck out.

In order to get out where I am now, I had to argue with my parents and put my foot down, telling them that I was going to find a way to leave one way or another.

I'm aware this is kind of a strange situation but, you really can't always know someone's circumstances through the internet. It's better to criticize someone for their current actions then to poke fun at something like them living at home.

Re: Casual ableism

[(Anonymous)]

Since the downturn in 2008 EVERYONE seems to be living at home with their parents! Why poke fun at that, right?

Re: Casual ableism

[dani_phantasma]

Yeah

Also according to my friends in other countries, living with your parents is common.

Re: Casual ableism

[(Anonymous)]

Honestly, maybe it's just the part of the country I live in but I hear about people being mocked for living with their parents here way more than I've ever seen it in person. Around here, you're gonna get shit if you're the type that always complains that your mom used the wrong fabric softener or cooks too many carbs, but living with your parents as an adult just isn't that remarkable anymore.