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[The Neverending Story]

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[Hamilton/Pokémon Go]

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[Peter Pan, Hook/Tiger Lily]

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["The Strain", Richard Sammel and Ruta Gedmintas]

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[Jessica Jones]

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08. [SPOILERS for Great British Bake Off]

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I just spent the last two hours talking with an online friend who is feeling suicidal. I did the best I could. But they don't want to talk to strangers, so they won't see a therapist. I think I said the right things, or at least I tried. And I'm planning on sending them a gift to let them know that they matter. But I don't know what else to do. This is my first time dealing with something like this, and I'm scared.

What else should I be doing? What should I be saying?

I know this sounds cold, but there isn't much you can do or say if your friend refuses to get help. If you're up for it, check in with them and be a shoulder to cry on, but keep encouraging them to talk to a doctor or at least try one of those suicide hotlines. IIRC, there are anonymous online chats they can use, too.

Your idea of a gift is sweet, but keep in mind that you cannot love someone out of depression. Don't spend money you can't afford. Don't invest time you can't afford, and by this I mean if you find yourself in the position of needing to talk them down from the ledge over and over again, this is a bad sign. Again, I know this sounds cold, because of course you want to help your friend. But trust me, you CANNOT be your friend's only safety line. You're not equipped to do be their sole source of emotional support, and it wouldn't be fair to you OR your friend.

Just keep in mind that you can't help someone who won't help themselves.

Be careful that you aren't sucked into an awful cycle of despair that ends up chipping away at YOUR mental health.

That said, I think all you can do at this point is to just be supportive, but recognize your limits. If things start getting bad, you should probably turn it over to the professionals. Your friend may not want to see a therapist, but it's not fair for them to substitute a friend for one either.

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