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Talking shit about misbehaving or annoying kids in public and being really harsh about them is super fucked up.

That's a popular opinion, sadly.

"Sadly"???

There is nothing wrong with resenting people who insist on disturbing the peace.

Honestly I'm confused about the level of control that some people seem to think parents have over their kids but aren't exercising. Obviously, they should be doing something about their kids' behavior but it's not like they can perform some kind of mind-control to make them suddenly start acting perfectly.

Which is about parents rather than people being really harsh toward the kids, but I agree with you there.

The more willing you are to use old hickory, the better behaved your kids are. Sometimes it is all they understand.

Corporal punishment is statistically linked to poor performance in school, so I guess you're right.

lol abuse is always funny (: (:

"Wahhhhh people need to beat their kids so they're not annoying for me wahhhhh"

Here's a really easy thing parents can do: remove the child. Pick them up, leave the premises, do not return until the child can behave. No hickory switches or mind control powers required.

This. Children misbehave. It happens. They get tired, they get frustrated, they're sometimes just little shits. We all were there at one point.

I do not expect children to behave in a perfect 'seen and not be heard' way 100% of the time.

I DO expect that as a parent you do your best to respect that if your child is causing a scene that you are doing everything you can to mitigate that, either by speaking with them, taking them outside until they calm down, or even picking them up and taking them home, ending the outing until they're in a better frame of mind to be wherever you are.

I don't expect perfect children. I do expect responsible parents.

This. Okay, not always possible. But often it is. Or at least try to control them. So often parents just let their kids run wild without even attempting to keep them quiet.

I could not physically wrestle my tantruming 3 year old somewhere she doesn't want to go without physically hurting her or myself. What does work when they're a bundle of strange emotions and feelings they haven't yet learned the tools to process is either ignore or distract until they're calm. That's a lot easier to do without people passing judgement on you or feeding the tantrum by passing comment (and therefore reinforcing negative attention)

Like the older lady who decided to tell my child who was screaming about going into the pushchair as we were leaving the doctors that 'someone needed to learn how to behave better for mummy'. Err no , she's beautifully behaved normally but after being made to wait 40 minutes for our appointment with minimal entertainment as I wasn't expecting more than a 10 min wait, she'd quite understandably had enough. Also the clue is we were at the doctors, maybe she was I don't know, unwell? If I hadn't been distracted and shocked at the rudeness I would have had words, grrr.

Yeah no ignoring them doesn't always work because it means that you're ignoring an attempt to communicate a need and that's... Not a good thing to drill into your kid's head. But you're clearly offended by the idea someone suggest you do something (despite... doing things).

Are you the parent? No? Then shut up.

No. Don't want people to comment on your disruptive and harmful behavior? Then stay the fuck away from other people.

I'm not near you. And I will NOT go away and you salty little ass stain anons will never get rid of me.

But once again, are YOU the parent? No? The shut the fuck up and sit your salty ass down. And take a knife and slam it through your eye.

Honestly I think it depends on the misbehaving. In some cases it's the parents not giving a shit about other people in public spaces and that does infuriate me.

+1

And in some cases, it's parents bringing children into spaces that really aren't appropriate for them, like taking an eighteen-month-old baby to a loud action movie, and refusing to leave even when the kid is screaming because she's terrified.

So much this. Especially around this time of year, you see so many miserable, screaming children who are just overstimulated and tired because their parents have been dragging them around shopping malls for 4 hours. Marathon shopping -- hell, marathon anything -- is not a toddler-friendly activity. It's not just unpleasant to the bystanders who are getting their eardrums ruptured by little Susie's meltdown. It's supremely unfair of Susie's guardians to have put her in that situation in the first place.

I work retail and I am disgusted by how many parents just completely ignore when their child is tired and cranky and in desperate need of a nap, not being dragged around shopping.

When your kid is running up and down aisles of Wal-Mart and nearly knocking people over, including someone with a cane, and you just continue on your leisurely stroll without even trying to do a thing, then yeah, you deserve to be talked shit about.

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