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Depression has snuck up on me again, f!s. I feel no motivation to care for myself (eat healthy, wash my face, be active) and I'm so stressed that I think it's affecting my abdomen (which is in sharp pain, and swollen)

My self love is non existent, and all I want is to self destruct (drink, starve myself, cut my palms), but luckily I have people in my life who are making sure I don't go down that route

It feels... chemical. Like I'm lacking something. Idk :( meds and therapy aren't an option... I can't go through that search again. I need to fix myself, I've fallen so far. I just forgot how to stand

As someone else with depression: you already answered your own question. It's chemical. You can't fix chemicals on your own, it's something in your brain that's not firing right and that isn't your fault-- nor can you just motivate yourself out of it.

I know how hard searching for the right combination of meds and therapy is, believe me. But that really is your answer.

DA

Seconding this--I don't know your situation exactly, and I know there are a thousand things that make meds and therapy difficult to get, but at least talking to your doctor would be a really good first step. Chemicals are important.

Thirding this

I've spent over 6 years looking for the right stuff, and with an open mind. I found ONE person, but she had to relocate to a different city, which broke my heart (I have abandonment and mother issues big time). I'm not doing it again. I appreciate your input, but I'd rather die quietly than go through being constantly reminded that no one can help me.

I am a firm believer in the power of the mind, and that's why I described it as needing to remember how to stand up again on my own.

I know this isn't going to help, given what you said. But my experience is that depression is often - not always, but often - profoundly chemical and physical. It is literally a consequence of physical brain function and brain chemistry. And on the one hand, that means that it's good to keep in mind that nothing about this is your fault.

On the other hand, the fact that it's a physical issue means that the best solutions are likely going to be physical, in the same way that the best thing to do about a broken arm is to get it treated and put a cast on it. My experience has definitely been that, at a certain level, it's not something that you can really fix with the power of will or positive thinking. It is a physical ailment. The most efficacious way to deal with it is to treat it as one. I know that might be difficult or tough but it is my experience that this is overwhelmingly and hugely the case. Of course if that's not possible it's not possible, and if you'd like to talk about things I think that would be fantastic, but that's the best advice that i have for you.

What to Do When You Can’t Afford Therapy By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Associate Editor [LINK: https://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/12/04/what-to-do-when-you-cant-afford-therapy/]

One of the biggest reasons people don’t seek therapy is money. People look at a therapist’s hourly rates — which might range from $100 to $250 — and immediately assume they can’t afford professional help. So they stop there.

But you do have various helpful options. Below, clinicians share, in no particular order, what you can do if you can’t afford treatment.

1. Check with your insurance.

“If you have insurance, ask your insurance plan to give you a list of providers who are either in your geographic area or who specialize in the issue you are seeking help with,” said Roberto Olivardia, Ph.D, a clinical psychologist and clinical instructor in the department of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School. You might only have to pay a small co-pay, he said.

However, even if your insurance doesn’t cover therapy, get the details on what they do cover, said Julie A. Fast, a coach and author of Get It Done When You’re Depressed. For instance, your policy might still include the words “social worker,” she said.

2. Try a training clinic.

Training clinics offer clients a sliding scale. They’re typically located in universities where graduate students prepare to become clinical or counseling psychologists, said Kevin L. Chapman, Ph.D, a psychologist and associate professor in clinical psychology at the University of Louisville. There, he said, students are “trained and supervised by licensed psychologists who typically have years of experience with specific mental health conditions.”

3. Try a community mental health center.

“Community mental health centers provide free or low-cost therapy options and services covered by Medicaid insurance,” said Julie Hanks, LCSW, a therapist and blogger at Psych Central. To find a center, search using Google or look at your state government website for the Department of Human Services, she said.

4. Read self-help books.

“Books are my first recommendation,” Fast said. Along with her book, Get It Done When You’re Depressed, she also suggested “the rather esoteric The Four Agreements for personal development [and] The Idiot’s Guide to Controlling Anxiety.”

You also can contact a local therapist for book recommendations for your specific concern, Olivardia said. “It can help narrow down the options and allow you to focus on quality resources,” he said.

5. Attend support groups.

Support groups typically are free or at least more affordable than individual therapy. They may be run by mental health professionals or peers. Always ask a therapist if they also offer lower-cost group sessions, Fast said. (“Groups can be a lot less expensive if they accept cash,” she said.)

She suggested attending moderated support groups. “I always stress that groups that are run by the people in the group rarely work. It should be a structured system where a dispassionate person runs things. Otherwise it can just be a complaining session,” Fast said.

The great thing about groups is meeting other people who are struggling with similar issues, which can create “a safe, validating space,” Olivardia said.

Learn more about support groups in your area by visiting NAMI and the Depression and Bipolar Support Alliance. Also, consider organizations such as Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA).

Consider, too, online support groups, such as one of the 180+ mental health support groups here at Psych Central.

6. Ask about discounted rates.

“Cash is often more lucrative than going through the whole paperwork insurance thing,” Fast said. As such, some therapists might offer discounts. For instance, Fast’s therapist typically charges $200 an hour, but she worked with Fast for $50 an hour for a year.

Fast suggested asking clinicians the following questions: “If I don’t have insurance, do you have a cash policy?” Or, “I’m looking for a therapist but am on limited funds. Do you have any discount programs or a group available?” If they don’t, they might be able to refer you to a practitioner who does, she said.

7. Re-evaluate your expenses.

“There are some situations where ‘can’t afford’ is really about priorities,” Hanks said. Consider if you can reorganize your budget to accommodate therapy.

“I’ve worked with clients who ‘can’t afford’ my services but highly value therapy and choose to go without other things because they “can’t afford” not to be in therapy,” she said.

8. Check out podcasts and videos.

Fast also recommended self-help podcasts and videos, such as TED talks on YouTube. “They are very inspirational and have good advice,” she said. When searching for podcasts on iTunes, consider terms such as therapy or personal growth, she said. “I know this is not like seeing a therapist, but I believe that self growth requires personal time as well. It doesn’t all have to be about psychology either,” she said.

9. Visit websites for your particular concern.

“When an individual is privy to their mental health needs — [such as] ‘I’m having panic attacks’ or ‘I think I have OCD’ — landing on an association’s website can be ideal,” Chapman said.

For instance, he said, if you’re struggling with anxiety, you can find valuable resources at the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, Anxiety and Depression Association of America and the International OCD Foundation.

There is also a wealth of information at Psych Central about self-help techniques, treatments, and books to check out. You can start by looking-up your mental health condition here.

10. Consult your congregation.

“If you belong to a religious congregation, talk to your preacher, pastor, or priest about your need and see if your church offers therapy services or is willing to help pay for therapy,” Hanks said.

11. Consider body therapy.

“Don’t forget body therapy… including chiropractic and massage,” Fast said. Schools usually charge small fees for services given by their students, she said.

As Olivardia said, “Nothing is more important than your physical and mental health.” If self-help resources and groups aren’t working, consider the price of not seeking professional help – because that might be steeper.

“Consider that there are costs for not getting treatment such as lost wages for missing work, strain on family relationships, and quality and length of your life,” Hanks said.

Ultimate Self-Injury Recovery Masterpost! [LINK: http://chooserecovery.tumblr.com/post/64162912692/ultimate-self-injury-recovery-masterpost]

How to care for injuries: http://chooserecovery.tumblr.com/care#cut_care

Alternatives and Distractions: http://chooserecovery.tumblr.com/alternatives

Need a boost? Some natural antidepressants: http://chooserecovery.tumblr.com/post/44577852783/need-a-boost-some-natural-antidepressants

Is using an alternative as bad as self-harming itself? [lINK: http://www.themix.org.uk/mental-health/self-harm/self-harm-coping-tips-and-distractions-5696.html]

Using alternatives to self-harm will help you get through an intense moment when you may feel a strong urge to hurt yourself. But it’s never going to be easy, especially when you’re trying to break the cycle for the first time. Doing something like squeezing ice won’t cure the roots of your distress, but it may help you to use a more productive coping mechanism and show you that you can cope with stress in a less harmful way. You’ll have to make a conscious effort to not hurt yourself, but the important thing is that if you do decide to use an alternative, you’ve made that choice yourself.

Minimise self-harm damage

If you feel an even stronger urge to self-harm, try the following harm minimisation tips:

Use a red felt tip pen to mark where you might usually cut
Hit pillows or cushions, or have a good scream into a pillow or cushion to vent anger and frustration
Rub ice across your skin where you might usually cut, or hold an ice-cube in the crook of your arm or leg
Put elastic bands on wrists, arms or legs and flick them instead of cutting or hitting
Have a cold bath or shower
“One of the reasons young people say they self-harm is that something has happened in their life that has made them feel contaminated or polluted by that event, whether it’s physical or emotional,” says Frances McCann, mental health practitioner. “It becomes a way of ‘letting something out’ and dealing with feelings of self-disgust or low self-esteem.”

If you are going to harm yourself:

Avoid drugs and alcohol as these can lead you to do more damage than you intended
Get your tetanus vaccination up-to-date
Try to avoid doing it when in a highly distressed state as you may cause more damage than you intended
Learn basic first aid
Self-harm is private, but think about how you can quickly access help if you seriously hurt yourself
Avoid using tablets or medicines – there is no such thing as a safe overdose
The A-Z of distractions

Often the best thing is to find out what has worked for other people who understand where you’re coming from. The Mix asked young people from young people’s mental health service 42nd Street to come up with some of the alternatives that help them.

Alternative therapies: massage, reiki, meditation, acupuncture, aromatherapy
Bake or cook something tasty
Clean (and won’t your folks/housemates be pleased!)
Craftwork: make things, draw or paint
Dance your socks off
Eat sweets or chocolate for an instant sugar rush (but be careful of the dip in your mood once it’s over)
Exercise for a release of endorphins and that feel-good factor
Forward planning – concentrate on something in the future, like a holiday
Go for a walk (preferably further than the local pub)
Go online and look at websites that offer you advice and information
Hang out with friends and family
Have a bubble bath with lots of bath bombs fizzing around you
Have a good cry
Hug a soft toy
Invite a friend round
Join a gym or a club
Knit (it’s not just for old people you know)
Listen to music
Moisturise
Music: singing, playing instruments, listening to (basically making as much noise as you can)
Open up to a friend or family member about how you are feeling
Pop bubble wrap
Phone a helpline or a friend
Play computer games
Play with a stress ball or make one yourself
Read a book
Rip up a phone directory (does anyone actually use them these days?)
Scream into an empty room
Shop ’til you drop
Smoke – smokers find that having a fag can help (smoking is not a long term solution; in fact, it’s a form of self harm)
Spend time with babies (when they’re in a good mood)
Tell or listen to jokes
Use the internet
Visit a zoo or a farm (animals do the best things)
Volunteer for an organisation (will make you feel all warm inside)
Watch TV or films – particularly comedies
Write: diary, poems, a book
Write negative feelings on paper, then rip them up
Yoga: meditation, deep breathing – this might help you relax and control your urges
Zzz – get a good night’s sleep
Photo of girl with cupcakes by volunteer photographer Jeff Arris

Next Steps
Under 19? You can get confidential help with self-harm from ChildLine – either over the phone or through an online chat.
TESS text and email support service runs Monday to Friday from 7pm to 9pm for girls and women aged under 25. Text them on 0780 047 2908.
Anyone can contact the Samaritans on their 24-hour helpline to talk things through. 116 123
RecoverYourLife.com is an online community where you can get peer support for self-harm and other mental health problems.
As well as an online forum RecoverYourLife.com have arcade games which you can use as distractions.
If you're under 25 and would like free confidential telephone counselling from The Mix to help you figure things out complete this form and we'll call you to arrange your first session.
Chat about this subject on our Discussion Boards.
Need help but confused where to go locally? Download our StepFinder iPhone app to find local support services quickly.

Self-care Masterpost: https://masterpostsnstuff.tumblr.com/post/120176384707/lah-disputes-i-decided-to-create-a-masterpost

Interactive Self-care guide: http://philome.la/jace_harr/you-feel-like-shit-an-interactive-self-care-guide

DBT Self-help: http://www.dbtselfhelp.com/

Bless you for all these links. They're very helpful!

Just make sure your gut issue isn't the cause. Swollen and pain sounds like a legit problem. Stomach trouble can deffo affect you mentally ime.

I didn't think of that. I figured my depression was the cause of it, but I'll make an appointment tomorrow!

Best of luck!

How to Find a Good therapist: https://mentalillnessmouse.tumblr.com/post/24731807374/getting-a-therapist-a-brief-step-by-step

50 Signs of a Good Therapist: http://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/50-signs-good-therapy-0110119/

21 Tips for Clients to get the Most out of Therapy: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/in-therapy/201005/21-tips-clients-in-psychotherapy

Thank you so much for all of this *_*

I don't know if this will help, but my latest tactic is remembering a phrase I read once and copied, but forgot the note the source. In essence: the brain can be a real asshole (alter the description as is most comfortable for you, like "jerk", "jackwagon", etc.)

So, your brain is currently being on a dickweed streak. Do you want to listen to a complete jerk? No!

Thusly, working on telling it off has been helping me lately when my brain goes into asshole mode despite my meds and therapy.

I figure anything's worth a shot, and I sincerely hope things even out for you soon!

Also, an article I keep bookmarked:
http://www.cracked.com/article_20398_5-ways-your-brain-tricking-you-into-being-miserable.html

Thank you so much :,) that would help me in dividing the problem with myself. To consciously identify it as its own entity, rather than something I'm doing wrong, is really helpful. Damn this parasite.

All these replies already have the best advice, but also make sure you have enough magnesium in your diet or take a supplement! A deficiency can cause depression!

http://kellybroganmd.com/magnesium-most-important-female-supplement/

And I hope your stomach feels better! :(

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