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If you're having a bad day and need to vent, let it out here.

I had lots of plans for today. I managed to get only one thing done (watching Guardians of the Galaxy 1 in Spanish) because I developed a massive migraine around lunch time. The only thing I can think of that might have triggered it is the red velvet buntlet I ate. Maybe the dye? I don't know. But frustrating. I couldn't even be on the computer for most of the day. Couldn't sleep. Just lay in the dark. It is still bad, though not as bad as before.

:( that sucks. I hope tomorrow is better for you.

Hi migraine twin, here's hoping you feel better. I should leave my nice dark quiet classroom and go to my actual class, but the one I'm lurking in has a sink, no windows, and a trashcan.

Hope you feel better too. Sadly, my room has windows, but I have an eye mask and ear plugs. As long as I'm laying down and not trying to get up and do things, the pain is at least manageable. Putting bags of ice on my face occasionally, which helps a lot.

I have shittons of work, I'm writing a really stupid response paper the prof asked us for which is really not grad work, and I hate that my stupid roommate brings out the worst in me.
I was so petty today. I'm not proud of it. But I can't stand her.

I can sleep.

Brain is fucky

I'm presuming that was "I can't sleep"? I'm sorry - insomnia is awful. Hope you can get some zzz's soon!

Work sucks and continues to suck. I think one of the people I've been training might be leaving for a different job. She has lasted the longest at a whole four weeks! I can't wait to train the next person that shows up for a month until they find a less terrible job.

I told me boss that the job is hell on the back and shoulders of EVERYONE who does it and he told me then we should find creative ways to fix that. :/

Your boss sounds like a fuckhead I have to be honest, like I am hoping that you can find a way out of there because it sounds awful.

It is why I am getting my license. Hating my job has finally motivated me to do that.

Re: Vent thread

nightscale - 2017-05-04 00:44 (UTC) - Expand

I'm not sure what your job is, but presume it is involving physical labour. If so, wouldn't the way to fix it be to purchase some mechanical assists? I guess that might be where the "creative" comes in, if they don't want to spend the money.

But yeah, if a job is causing me physical pain and/or injury, I wouldn't be sticking around either.

Yeah, he isn't going to pay for any kind of stuff like that. But I will hopefully be out of there by the end of July. If all goes well.

So I threw up in a trash can in a busy part of campus on the way to class, because I had a stress headache from hell and the only things I'd eaten today were a handful of crackers and a donut--one of my profs brought them for everyone for the last day of class. I'm getting an A, at least? And this last class today is later than usual since we're presenting group projects in a different classroom, so I'm sitting in the dark in an empty classroom that has both a sink and a trashcan. I'm worried about going outside again; if this is the migraine it feels like, bright light used to be one of my "puke until my stomach tries to escape my esophagus" triggers.

I am just so angry all the time lately. I don't like it, but I can't seem to shake it. Work is not helping the situation.

Mentioned upthread, but my job is being outsourced to an out of state hub. I can apply to follow it, but everything I've heard is that the company just becomes toxic and bad the closer you get to corporate. Like, people who hadn't got pay raises in 16 years and vacations? What are those?

There's literally nothing in my area in my field. My mom's all "You can always move into your brother's spare bedroom and work at the casino with your sister!" but...that's not what I want to do. And my parents are getting older, so I was really trying to not get farther away.

Petty vent, I have a big deep painful acne coming up on the inside of my thigh.

different people

A) I appreciate you finally getting in touch with me to let me know that your team no longer has the headcount for the open position I had interviewed for, but I do wish it had taken less than a month for you to determine this

B) STOP PLAYING FUCKING PHONE TAG WITH ME JESUS CHRIST I don't know why you're apparently unable to answer the phone during business hours but I know you have my email so just SEND ME AN EMAIL instead of calling me and leaving voicemails that just tell me to call you back. I called you twice today and you didn't pick up. what the hell man. just send an email.

I hate people who refuse to e-mail. I've known some people who are really weird about that when sometimes it's a simple message and if they had just e-mailed me instead of playing phone tag, I could have confirmed the message hours ago.

It's turning into summer and I don't like it D: I just don't like heat, I don't like summer clothing, and there are too many damn people out when it's nice out. Give me a cool gray day where few people are out, it's so peaceful.

At first I would occasionally have a throat that sort of hurt, but wasn't an actual sore throat. I put it towards drainage due to allergies. Which is weird in of itself because I don't exhibit allergies like normal people with lots of sneezing, running eyes, etc. But I did get officially diagnosed with oral allergy syndrome several years ago. Whatever.

I went outside today. Now it's after 9 p.m. and I feel like I am getting a sore throat! I'd grumble but I fear that would just hurt. Sigh.

I am so stressed. So stressssed....

And I can't go for walks because my knee is still recovering. And the doctor injected me in the butt and now my butt and part of my leg hurts and I'm sure she touched a nerve with the needle. I also spent three days with a massive headache which was also caused by stress.

STRESSSSSS.

My gf hasn't wanted to have sex with me for what feels like weeks. Like not "she actively dislikes the idea" (I hope) - she just seems to not care want it or think about it. When we do have sex (always my idea, never hers) it feels like she is just doing me a favor and isn't having fun like she used to. I feel like she isn't attracted to me anymore. She doesn't look at me like she used to. I feel like I'm being taken for granted. I'm not initiating as much anymore cause it's making me feel unattractive. I tried bringing it up once, but she started crying and I felt bad, assured her she was still a good girlfriend, and dropped it.

Is this the mythical lesbian bed death everyone talks about so much? We've only been together two years...

More likely your girlfriend is fucking depressed and it sounds like you care more about your own problems than asking her if everything is okay.

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2017-05-04 11:30 (UTC) - Expand

Re: Vent thread

(Anonymous) - 2017-05-04 12:09 (UTC) - Expand

Harsh but real advice, "This thing is really bothering me but I can't bring it up with my partner because I'm afraid." is a huge ginormous red flag for the relationship status.

You brought up something that was bothering you about her behavior, and she cried, and got you to apologize for having feelings? That is not cool, not cool at all. Occasional sexual and general satisfaction check-ins for couples are super awkward and also super important.

And I really want to stress that in these things there's no right or wrong way to be, it's just whatever makes you happy. You're not happy with being made to feel unattractive, maybe she's unhappy with the pressure to make you feel attractive, and it sucks but if something like this is the case you'll be a lot happier with someone who enjoys making you feel desired and she'll be a lot happier with someone who is happy with her as she is. OR maybe it's something that can be worked out, but if she flat out won't let you bring up the topic then..... there's really no place to even start diagnosing the issues here.

I'm sympathetic, I grew up in a 'wire mother' sort of situation and so I had a long string of failed relationships because giving/receiving affection was a totally foreign concept to me. I'm now in a happy relationship, but it takes a lot of sometimes very awkward communication. And sometimes that communication is "I wish we cuddled more, want to cuddle and watch a movie?" and "I enjoy cuddling with you, but I'm short and when we cuddle I can't see the TV. So we can cuddle, or we can watch a movie together, but not both. Which would you like?" "Oh! I didn't realize you couldn't see the TV. We can cuddle and talk or listen to music or something, the cuddling's the important part."

And it took us years to get to that point because for a long time I thought it was better not to complain so I'd 'put up' with sitting still for two hours able to only see a blurry section of TV around the edge of my glasses and then quickly escape and never initiate it, meanwhile he'd be hurt and confused because I'd agreed to movie-cuddles but he could tell I wasn't happy. The only solution was to communicate.

But back to the original thing, you can speculate and we can speculate all day long, but it's basically "My car is making a weird noise" and it could be anything from a loose belt to wolverines nesting in the trunk and there's no way to find out unless you talk.

Or, you know, you can kind of stay quiet and be unhappy and hope whatever thing she won't talk about resolves itself. It's not your place to be her therapist, but as a general rule if it's part of a pattern you will never be able to make yourself small enough and need so little that it makes your partner happy.

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