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⌈ Secret Post #3791 ⌋

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I don't like bars or nightclubs and such. Plus I don't like my co-workers. I have no idea how to find people to hang out with.

Online meetup things for stuff you're interested in? IDK it can be hard to make friends as an adult, I also don't like bars or nightclubs and while I like my coworkers fine, I don't really like hanging out with them because I feel like being around people 24-7 is just a great way to get sick of them/get involved in drama and I want none of that.

Adult hobby lessons at your local community college is the way to go. So learn to love line dancing or folk music.

I genuinely don't know. It doesn't often bother me but I would like to know. Also if I can tag a question off the end of it: How do you turn workmates into actual mates. Is there a secret password you need to use or something?

Maybe your workmates don't want to be your actual mates, so they delberately didn't tell you the secret password.

Awww.

:(.

You know all of this makes you look like a bigger asshole than Wako right?

What a horrible thing to say! You don't care about my feelings at all, do you?

I'm thinking of two basic options here:

1. Add said coworkers on facebook (which you've probably already done with the ones you like best because it's 2017). Make a point of commenting on some of their posts for a bit, to establish yourself with them in the psuedo-social setting that is facebook. (Again, you may already be doing this.) Then invite (probably via facebook) a few of them to some kind of a thing. Like...drinks at a karaoke bar or something else that's casual. Make sure you're going with at least one RL friend (two or three is better, and your GF also works for this too), so that if only one coworker shows up it won't be just you and them.

2. If you are lucky enough to be a socially outgoing and secure person, you can also just try saying something along the lines of, "Hey, anybody want to get some food or beer or something after work? I'm kinda burnt out on the whole go-home-and-watch-netflix routine."

Thank's for the advice. Actually I don't even have a face book. Never bothered with it. Rest of it is solid, tho. Appreciate it.

Well, there's church, if you're into that.

Hobby stuff--I think Michael's has craft lessons and such.

I've met most of my current friends at science fiction conventions. Most of us (maybe all of us) are writers.

Figure out a thing you love, and find other people who love that thing and where they hang out.

idk either. I've looked at meetup.com but it just seems like a lot of people joining groups online but then never actually going to the events. And the few events I've managed to go to are really awkward and not really good for building a lasting friendship.

What are your hobbies and interests, could you join a club for one (like a gardening club or a bridge club or a comic book discussion group)?

Online meetup groups are a good start. Honestly? Do what you love and meet people at the same general things.

I met one of my best friends while standing around at the series 8 premiere of Doctor Who in NYC. I've met friends standing in lines for author book signings. I've made friends going to different concerts/sporting events. If you join the online forums you can meet up with people who are going to things beforehand.

Get a hobby, for fuck's sake. So many people with this question. Get a hobby, and go do it at a group that does it. I didn't even WANT a social circle and I got one when I started playing tennis.

Not OP and I have so damn many hobbies and no friends--okay, one friend who I've known since I was three, and a smattering of people I'm friendly with from work. And I've made costumes and food for people and shared plant starts and lent books and discussed tv shows and... nothing. I mean, at least I'm not usually bored, but friends would be nice.

I am approximately 10000% confident that if I started playing tennis I wouldn't develop a social circle around it

I mean, not all hobbies are social. My main hobby is cross stitch, and I have never made any friends doing that. Sport related hobbies are very social, but not everyone likes sports.

This is something my shrink & I talk about (and by talk about, I mean, it's a suggestion she makes that routinely goes nowhere) because neither one of us can really, truly come up with a reliable, sustainable alternative.

...You could try joining a local book club? Or, if you're religious, a Bible study or appropriate alternative for non-Christian religions. Doing volunteer work? See if there's a knitting circle near you?

Idk, I'm just spitballing, OP. I wish you luck in your endeavor and look forward to reading the previous comments for (almost certainly better) suggestions.

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