[ SECRET POST #3819 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3819 ⌋

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Comments

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[(Anonymous)]

Deliberate eye contact and smiling without any other explanation, plus suggestive subjects mentioned. And if you flirt back, they don't back off, but ups the ante.

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[thewakokid]

That's could all be true - I didn't flirt back, I dont know how, and frankly lack the confidence. I really don't want to be see as the creep I am IRL. - But at a con, doens't everyone smile all the time without a good reason. I know I do. And some people are just good with eye contact.

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[(Anonymous)]

Flirting is at its best a light and unobtrusive way of letting someone know you like them. It doesn't have to mean anything else, so there's no risk in light flirting. If they're not that into you (or oblivious), they'll just not respond and no harm done.

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[thewakokid]

Unless I flirt wrong then Im creepy and threatening an it ruins the con for her?

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[(Anonymous)]

Here's where the "light" part comes in. As in subtle, unobtrusive. Don't ambush anybody, think before you speak. Be sure that what you're saying is genuinely fun and endearing.

And if you're thinking: "but that's just how I am!" (bad at socializing), that's really just a lousy, lazy excuse not to try. One got to train this skill too, as any other skill.

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

[thewakokid]

Nah, I got my girlfriend. Being able to flirt might be fun, but it's not a skill I need. Plus it's too much of a risk, what if what I think is "light, subtle, unobtrusive and genuinely fun and endearing" comes out wrong, or sounds threatening or creepy or misogynistic or uncomfortable? I been in that situation far too many times with non-flirty situation, I do NOT want to look sexually threatening.

No, I suppose the conclusion I'm coming to here was I had fun talking to people about games and anime, and regardless of what my girlfriend thinks, it doesn't matter if anyone found me attractive. I think I'm better off assuming as anon below puts it that no-one has ever or will ever want to flirt with me. Then I can't make myself look like a sexist animal.

Edit: That did not mean to sound like such a pity party, I simply mean, that I'm better playing safe, I cant lose nothing with that assumption.