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[ SECRET POST #3819 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3819 ⌋

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My method: look back months later and think "wait, was he...?"

I have no idea. I'm so oblivious.

Same. I couldn't tell is someone was flirting with me if they had my knob in their mouth.

How about the other way around?

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

thewakokid - 2017-06-18 20:29 (UTC) - Expand

Fuck if I know. I'm so oblivious I had no idea a pair of swingers were trying to pick me up until someone flat out told me that's what was happening.

That sounds like the start of a fascinating story. do please continue...

It really isn't. XD We were all playing DnD, and I wasn't told until after they left. So even if I was so inclined, the opportunity had passed.

I ask because according to my girlfriend - Humble Brag incomming - while I was at this con, some of the girls I was chatting to were being super flirty.

I would really, really like to believe that. It would do wonder for my self esteem, but I just don't see it. I think my girrlfriend was seeing things that weren't there. Her own attempts to be flirtatious are... abysmally subtle, so I don't think she knows what flirting actually is.

What do geek girls do to flirt at cons?

Flirt, I suppose?

But how?

Like, I couldn't recognise flirting. It'd be like trying to describe green to a blind guy. "Well, it's just Green, you know? Mix of Yellow and Blue?"

Caught in your lie with your seventh word. Dude, at least try and keep your trolling realistic.

Dude, my girlfriend has been on this comm before.

... When shes not too busy in canada, I mean.

idk, all of the geek girls who've ever flirted with me were either so subtle I didn't notice, or so obvious that it was uncomfortable. Like, they got physically clingy, or made 'jokes' that were borderline inappropriate to make with a stranger.

Gawd, women are just the worst, aren't they?

... Since we were talking about inappropriate jokes...

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

soldatsasha - 2017-06-18 22:37 (UTC) - Expand

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

thewakokid - 2017-06-18 23:28 (UTC) - Expand

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

soldatsasha - 2017-06-19 00:00 (UTC) - Expand

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

thewakokid - 2017-06-19 00:09 (UTC) - Expand

If your SO shows up and they suddenly make an excuse to leave, I've found.

Not gonna help. My girlfriend is very much a "Hide at the back and be unobtrusive" type. I honestly think the only thing she ever said was "Sure" and "Thank you" to anyone who was not me this whole weekend. I kinda wonder what she gets out of cons, if not the chance to talk to our fellow nerds.

That said, I have notices far fewer people approach her for photos when I'm right there, so your point does stand. I can see these dudes eyeing her, start to approach with a camera, see me, then grampa simpson it right outta there.

Deliberate eye contact and smiling without any other explanation, plus suggestive subjects mentioned. And if you flirt back, they don't back off, but ups the ante.

That's could all be true - I didn't flirt back, I dont know how, and frankly lack the confidence. I really don't want to be see as the creep I am IRL. - But at a con, doens't everyone smile all the time without a good reason. I know I do. And some people are just good with eye contact.

Flirting is at its best a light and unobtrusive way of letting someone know you like them. It doesn't have to mean anything else, so there's no risk in light flirting. If they're not that into you (or oblivious), they'll just not respond and no harm done.

Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

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Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

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Re: How do you tell if your being flirted with?

thewakokid - 2017-06-18 21:37 (UTC) - Expand

"You should hang out at my house."

Happened to me once but I hate going to people's houses.

Oh, lord me too.

My Girlfriends sister hating me, her dad trying to fight me, and her other sister saying me babysitting with her made me a pedophile was the best things that ever happened. I have an excuse to not hang out over there ever again.

You weren't being flirted with. Ever.

Except by you, you cheeky little minx.

I can never tell. It's somewhat convenient, since it allows me to have perfectly platonic relationships with dudes while leaving behind the whole attraction baggage.

I honestly have no idea. Usually my friends tell me and then I go, "Wha? They were? Why?"

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